My father passed away 7 weeks ago from sudden cardiac arrest at age 62. I'm barely over the shock and far far from the acceptinng stage. He was so full of life and we were all so looking forward to spending more time together in the near future. We are a small family scattered around the world. My parents in Asia, my brother and his family in the UK and I live in Canada. As soon as I heard of the shocking news I caught the 1st flight to be with my Mom. I spent nearly 3 weeks there and now I'm back to my normal routine, dealing with my own grief. The reason I posted this in this section is to seek help and advice for my mother from people who have lost a partner. She's in her early 60's, seemingly very strong-willed and independent, but she's obviously quite devestated. Neither myself nor my brother can spend extended amount of time with her due to our lives and responsibilities. But at the same time I'm constantly worried about her and want to do something for her. She has her mother and a few good friends. She also has two brothers who are not really there for her, too busy with their lives etc. She's alone all of a sudden and her kids live so far away. She's not expecting anything from us, but I keep thinking about her and wish could do something for her. She will eventually come and stay with us for a while come next spring/summer., but due to visa issues it won't be sooner than that. But I'm afraid she needs us for the first few months more than any other time. I call her almost everyday during evening their time when she might feel lonely. I'm planning on sending her some books and such. That's all I can do from this long distance. I wish she were more internet-literate, she could have kept busy that way. I suggested her to learn the internet by joining a class. Any other suggestions? If you were in her position, how could have your children from abroad helped you? Worrying about my mother is aggrevating my grief and I feel quite helpless.
