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azusaman

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  • Birthday 12/15/1942

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  • Date of Death
    8/17/09
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    John C. Lincoln (Deer Valley)

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    Phoenix, AZ

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  1. I lost my wife of 24 years 3 years ago on this August 17. I can't believe it still hurts this much.
  2. It does the same thing for me. Music can be very therapeutic in the grieving process.
  3. Hi all, It's been a while since I was on this site and I was thinking about all the people I used to communicate with and how they are doing. Music has been a big help to me over the last year and 7 mos. I'd like to share this song with you all...it makes me sad and happy at the same time thinking about my Adrianne. I don't even know if that's possible but here it is.
  4. 1-1/2 year mark on Feb. 17 Still cry sometimes...thought it would be a lot better by now. Thought wrong.

  5. Hey dude, You need to be on another type grief site...one that deals with break-ups, not death. Ted
  6. Rochel, Very well said and very encouraging. In His love, Ted
  7. Marty, that was great...very well said by the author. I've said this before but it needs repeating, you do a fantastic job as admin. of this site and I hope everyone on here appreciates the work you do. Best, Ted
  8. Rochel, Glad you had a great time on your birthday and glad you live in this wonderful state of AZ. I think it's ok to meet with people from this site but all the experiences I've had turned out to be women that were just after my millions of dollars and perhaps my good looks. LOL Hope no one is offended at my small attempt at some humor but as MartyT has said before, it's good to laugh in the middle of this grief sometime. Remember the scripture that says "laughter doeth good like a medicine." Anyway, coffee would be great sometime....just send me a private email and I'll try to fit you into my "busy" schedule. Best of love to you, Ted
  9. Rochel, welcome back and Happy Birthday..I sensed the sadness of your celebrating your birthday without Bob. I had the same feelings on my birthday. I'm praying that God will have carved out a new life for all of us on this site by this time next year. I'm sure Adrianne would want me to move on and find happiness and not be sad all the time. Having said all of that, there are still triggers that pop up in front of me from time to time but they aren't objects or clothes like they were earlier...now they are just memories of our marriage...good and bad. Again, Happy Birthday. Did you do anything special? Best, Ted
  10. Well Rochel, I am glad you are coming home to Arizona and I won't have to call you Cali girl anymore. The song "California Dreaming" comes to mind a lot. I pray you have traveling mercies from our Lord and wish you a safe and upbeat trip from the Left Coast. (no politics intended) I'm sure you will feel some grief as you return to some familiar surroundings where you and your Bob enjoyed many happy moments. Best to you and many prayers, Ted
  11. Well, yesterday I visited Adrianne's grave and it went much better than I thought it would. It was a bright, sun shining and just a beautiful day that God ordered up for me. I guess the main thing that struck me was that she wasn't there in the ground, but up in heaven, beholding the Glory of the risen Savior. I felt such comfort in knowing that. Thank all of you for your prayer and support. Ted
  12. Alden, as Marty said this is very normal. I see it in every room of my house...whether it's pictures or old stuff in the garage, it still reminds me of my grief. Hang in there..it does get better. Best, Ted
  13. Rochel, very inspiring and hopeful post. The strength from God especially needed at this time...I'm really going to need it Saturday when I visit Adrianne's grave site. Please pray that I will have the strength to carry through on this. I know it is something I need to do, but I am very apprehensive about it. Best to you and all on this site, Ted
  14. Marty, I don't know if anyone has expressed this to you before but I want to say that you do an incredible job as admin. of this site. Your links related to the topic being discussed are right on! You deserve a big THANK YOU. Ted
  15. I find myself being insincere when people ask "how are you doing" ?? I say I'm fine when I'm really not. However, lately I'm not doing that bad and I still wear the grief mask....Does anybody else do this?? If you feel like you want to move on and people expect you to be in the grief zone, do you tilt your head and still indicate that you are grieving when you are not??? Do you feel waves of guilt if you laugh and all of a sudden, you think that you shouldn't... Just some thoughts I want to throw out.... Ted By the way, thanks for all the input from everyone regarding my visiting the gravesite
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