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Bridget

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  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Venlo, Holland
  1. I will only add that a number of years ago I was told I was going to die. MY brother really checked out. When I recovered I was furious with him and it took alot of time to get over it.. Recently my brother was talking to my adult son and told him the worse moment of his life was when I was ill. Nice to hear second hand. But the point is that people are not supportive but that does not mean they are not involved. It is a special person who can support you when there is trouble.
  2. I also lost both of my parents and it is a blow. My father was a scoundrel but I still miss his laugh and conversation. I so wanted him to know my son. I think that is the thing I feel the worst about. I did not have live grandparents so I think that is very special. But we go on....while it seems impossible now for some magical reason after a while it does not hurt so much. I actually went through a period where I felt guilty that I was not suffering more. That is when I thought about what my parents wanted for me and that was to go on with my own life and not dwell in the past. I once was driving up to their grave and I had the strongest sense that my parents were telling me to go home and be with my family. So hang in there ... grief is natural and there is a natural way to go through and survive it.
  3. After reading your post I asked my husband who lost his father when he was 23 what he thought. He told me to tell you that even after 30 years his father still comes to him in his dreams and tells him it will be okay. These dreams have become a source of comfort to him even 30 years later. My own experience has been when I visit the grave of my 24 year olds best friend - I always feel his presence and get the sense that he is watching over my son - and it will be okay. My aunt who just died told us just before she went that "It is OK and to stay Positive". I try to remember this advise when I hit the low moments. Keep coming back - with sharing comes healing.
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