I will only add that a number of years ago I was told I was going to die. MY brother really checked out. When I recovered I was furious with him and it took alot of time to get over it.. Recently my brother was talking to my adult son and told him the worse moment of his life was when I was ill. Nice to hear second hand. But the point is that people are not supportive but that does not mean they are not involved. It is a special person who can support you when there is trouble.