Kath-
Thank you for your guidance. I strive everyday to keep memories alive but they are still very raw for me. It saddens me to think that when I recall memories of my Mother, that I become so sad. I want them to cherish the moments we have making "Grammie's Famous Mac and Cheese" but my heart is still so heavy. For them I want to move on, along with doing for myself. I want to be able to smile when I think of her but I still feel so sad and guilty about so many things. I want to be out of this stage of grief....can you tell I am not a patient person? I want to heal and not forget. I want to feel the warm feeling inside that I felt when I thought of my Mother. My extended family has just begun to talk about good times; it will be a year in July. During these times I do try to participate but it is tough. We have celebrated her birthday and wedding anniversary but I still feel empty. Any chance we get we celebrate her. I have become very active in "cancer causes". I have included family members and my children. Still with all of the "love and support" I am trying to send out into the world, I am still lost and full of questions. Is there a balance and will it come? I have tried reading books, writing, traveling, and talking with friends that have lost parents, etc. but have not found a way to work through my issues. I am hoping going to a counselor will help along with this on-line discussion groups.
Thank you for supporting me and sharing!
Lost1