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Thank you soo much! Today was my second day and oh my do I feel OLD! But the people were great to me. I am going to do this!!! I am a FIGHTER!!!! I will keep everyone posted. I love this forum!

Gail! You don't know me but you have given me hope for my daughter! It has been 18 months since Scott died. And I hope one day she will find a great man! This forum has its ups and downs but the longer you stay on you find there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks=you just made my day! Vicki

Hi everyone! I got a job! Part time at Lowes in lawn and garden. Maybe after 18 months something is about to change.My kids are doing OK which is better thsn before. The baby turned 1 last week and now Coltin is 3. Soccer has started and spring is in the air. This forum has really helped me out through this whole traumatic time. I am so grateful for the advice and genuine caring people on this site. The cliche of "this too shall pass" used to piss me off but my oh my how true it is. Anyway I start Monday on my new CAREER! HAHA! I will continue to update and try to help the newbies as you all have with me. Love you all, Vicki

I know "this too shall pass" and I'm taking it one day at a time. Sounds so cliche but that is the way it is. Kath-yes it was what we hoping for and it is a good thing for Cori. I am trying to get a positive outlook on life. It is better than last year so I guess time does change everything. Maybe if the sun would shine it would help. Thanks for replying. This forum does help! Especially when you don't have someone to vent to. I do have my hubby but he and I are both trying to adjust to our new :normal. Anyway I have applied for a couple of jobs to no avail but I will keep trying. I just need to be around people of all ages. That is what I miss the most about home was my clients(friends). Thanks again-will keep posted!

OK just got back from ou trip and miracously my daughter doesn't need us as much. OK now what? Now I wish I would have not moved down here nd had my old job back. This is what I have wanted for 1 1/2 years and now I am longing for my old life. Do I just sit around all day? I am trying to fit in this small town and am going to try and go find a stylist job down here. But I am afraid I am too old. My husband says I am making excuses/am I? Sorry I just had to vent as I am so FRUSTRATED! I have gone from 3 times a day seeing my grandkids to 2 times a week- isn't there suppose to be a balance?

Thank you! Actually my husband and I are leaving for Mexico next week for 7 days. We are hoping both of our kids will start to step up and grow . My son lives with Cori. He really needs to find a place of his own, but he wasn't working all of last year. He is in construction{need I say more) any way he has a few jobs coming in the next couple of weeks. It is hard to say anything to him as he doesn't want any advice. The community and church have stepped up to help the kids. They have their moments but all in all seem to be doing great. Once again thank you Kath! Vicki

WOW if only that was possible. No money coming in because of the cancer, no possibilities of somewhere to go. We have gone through a lot of money this year because of the cancer. I wish I could ship him to an island just to let him know he is lucky to be alive! Thanks Fred- he is most of the problem. Vicki

Thanks! You are a DOLL! Will keep you posted Vicki

Thank you for replying. It helps! The sweet spot is the grandkids. They are thriving. But my son is in a dark depression and doesn't want any help. My daughter is ready to move on but we are in a small community and finding someone to top Scott is an impossibilty. I realize this too shall pass but sometimes I wish it was faster. The doctor told John he needs to see a couselor but he won't do it. I told him about the cancer survivors group but he won't do anything. He is in the"poor me" stage and living with Cori and her 5 kids doesn't help. One day at a time I guess. Anyway thanks again for your kind words. Vicki P.S My family does have good faith!!

My grandkids lost their Dad 16 months ago and we talk about him but I don't want them to grieve 25 years from now.. How do I help them on a daily basis?He was such a JOY to be around and I see him in each of my 5 grandkids and I want them to remember him. Vicki

I am new to this so here it goes- My son in law was killed instantly in a motorcycle accident on September 9-08 . My daughter was pregnant with her 5th child. He was the man of her dreams. Educated,smart,a joy as a son in law! Great Dad and husband. They were living in Morrisville,Mo. We were living in Lone Jack,Mo. I had been a hairdresser at the same salon for 30 years-loved it! My husband and I decided we should move down to help her and the kids. Mean while my son-28 moved down to help her out too. He was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma in December 08'. Two surgeries later-10 chemos and 14 radiations. We sold our home and bought one here in Morrisville in May of 09'. We all eat togrther and help with the kids ages 11-9-5-3 and now 11 months. How do I move on and have a life when both of my kids are still hurting. I am a babysitter/nanny/cook. I do love my grandkids and don't want a pity party- just want to be happy again. I am willing to hear any advice. Vicki