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  1. Thank you Kavish, DoingMyBest and Babs, for your comforting words of advice. Some days I feel like I’m on an emotional roller coaster ride and it won’t stop, one day I’m angry and the next day I cry at the drop of a hat. Anyways, I want to apologize for my original post, I may have said way too much out of frustration. At the time it felt good to get things off my chest, it was as if though I were talking to all the “disrepecters” (as DoingMyBest so nicely refers to them as) rather than angrily rambling on to strangers. However, I do appreciate everyones input on this matter. If it were not for each of you reaching out through your posts, its hard telling what state of mind I would be in right now. Kavish, your statements “I am glad your heart is full with love for her,” and “She will always be here with you.” are so comforting, thank you. DoingMyBest, you are so right by saying “you will really learn a lot about people, individually and collectively, in this experience.” and “I am choosing to focus on the ones who are more in it with me…it gives you something to cling to so that you aren't totally washed away with negative emotions.” Loss of a loved one is enough, I am not going to allow the “disrepecters” take any more happiness from me. My mother was a fun, loving person and she would not want her children to be dwelling on the “negatives” of life. Thank you DoingMyBest for that reminder. Babs, your reassuring words of “I do believe when she passed she was met with Loving Arms and Now Feels More Love and Warmth than Ever..” and “She may have deserved more in Life but in Death She has and is being Rewarded for every Loving thing she has done and wanted to do” brought so much comfort to me. I have a "positive" way of looking at all the hardships my Mom had faced in her lifetime. Thank you!
  2. Why am I so angry?! It's been a little over a week since my mother has passed, and rather than being overwhelmed with sadness I'm festering with anger. I'm tired of hearing excuses of why people weren't able to make it to her funeral, "the weather was bad" or "flights were too expensive"...ok then, please recognize her through a simple card or an online memorial, and let us know you're thinking of her. Three of her siblings did not attend her funeral, one thought the flights were too expensive, another did not know of Mom's passing (cough-cough), even though she only lived 1/2 hr away from Mom, and we have to hear why the last one, whose retired and financially stable, did not bother to show. It's not like her passing was unexpected, she was in hospice care since last June. My mother-in-law did not say one word to me in regards to Mom's passing, why?! Nor did my aunts from my father's side acknowledge her passing either. Where were the people Mom helped while she was still alive? Some claimed to have been her best friends, why were they not at her funeral? The retirement home she first resided at prior to her final move to a nursing home, not one person from the home recognized her passing, why?! While living in this home, Mom was beyond helpful to them, she would clean, set tables, and do dishes because it made her feel good. She enjoyed helping with fundraisers for the home, one time she sold over 265 tickets and she did it all by walking door to door. She chuckled about getting a new pair of shoes because she wore out the other pair by walking so much. The home gave her a thank you card stating she will be remembered for a long, long time. Unfortunately for Mom it wasn't long enough. This is small community where everyone knows everyone, so no excuses on their part. I am so angry with the disrespect everyone has shown her in death, I could scream. She never had much of a life; she had an abusive mother and later an abusive husband. She had more health problems than any one person deserved in their life time and for that I'm somewhat angry with God, why did he give her so much in 69 years? I want her to know her life wasn't a waste, she was loved and she meant so much to others. She deserved so much more in life and in death.
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