Missin_SIS

I cant understand why Im still having this hard of a time with losing my sister. I Its been 1 year and 4 months and my life is still like it was the day my sister passed. I still cry every single day. I still have the nightmares. I cant do everyday things like everyone else. And everyone around me (except my mom dad and other sis) cant understand why Im still like this. I have no answer for them. I wish I could just go on like everyone tells me too but I cant, Ive even tried getting help through a therapist and Ive been seeing him for over a year. I know my life will never ever be the same but I just wish I could live a everyday life. I cant work I can bearly go into public. Does anyone out there know of anything I can do to help myself try to get through this.

Im so sorry you have to deal with all that on top of losing your brother. I've actually never met someone thats going through the same thing as I. I lost my sister last year suddenly. Ever since than things have gotten horrible between my mother and my other sister and I. My mother and I have drifted quite a bit and fight all the time. She too has the worst time trying to deal with her daughter dying. I wish I knew how to fix relationships after the death of a very close loved one so I could help you. I cant imagine losing a child and for our mothers it must be worse than death. I am truly sorry for all the sadness you and your family has to go through.

I can not tell you how sorry I am. I my found my big sister passed away who was 26 suddenly and unexpected so I understand what the pain is... I couldnt ever imagine watching a sibling die though. I cant tell you that the pain will ever get better or even lessen because it wont. I lost my sister on 01/14/2009 and I still grieve intensely ever single moment. But times will come where you may not think about her every moment. And those moments will come more and more often. I know it feels like that it'll never happen but it will.... Not now but in a few months you'll be able to take a deep breathe for a minute. and you may even be able to think of her without crying. I am just SO incredible sorry for losing your sister. I know you'll never feel whole again. I'm here if you ever need to speak.

I found my 26 year old sister passed away on our bath room floor on january 14th of 2009 She NOR us(her family) new she was sick.. she had an enlarged heart but with NO symptoms at all. It wasnt something that I could even come close to dealing with at all. I started seeing a therapist 2 weeks after she passed and I am currently still seeing him. I suffer from post tramatic stress disorder and depression like anyone who has lost someone. I do believe that I wouldve ended my life back when I first found her if it hadnt been for my therapist. They can help you understand different feelings and maybe other things you experience. I do believe that anyone who loses someone they were close with family or friend should have someone they can turn too( not a family or friend) to talk too. Someone outside the situation who can view it differently. and have different input. Its nice to have aplace to go that I can just cry without the guilt of crying around others who love my sister as much as I do. We all now when each other is crying over her so I tend to hide it from them and express it at my therapists office once a week but to be honest the pain is still so intence that it hurts physically. The pain is no better now then back when I first found her...

thank you so much.... your very kind.... many people are not they think I should be over this already... my extended fmaily ( aunts uncles cousins) have been just horrible to me... not been there at all and they all think Im a monster because its too hard to attend family events without my big sister =(

missyme, Im so sorry. I lost my 26 yr old sister over a year ago and its not any easier... All you can do is take it one day at a time. My thoughts are with you and your family.

I found my 26 year old sister dead on the bathroom floor.... She had an enlarged heart and she nor any of us never knew. She was completly healthy. My big sister was the best friend Ive ever had. She was helping me raise my daughter. We spent every single day all day long together. I now suffer from P.T.S.D. My life has forever changed and I can seem to move on. My sister passed away on January 14th 2009. I just cant move on. The morning she passed It was just her and I home. To this day I still blame myself. I always think if I had just found her sooner. I didnt find her for 2 1/2 hours. Why cant I comprehend whats happen. Over a year later and its still like a bad dream to me. I cant do the normal everyday things like the rest of my family. I dont know what to do