My Dad died on 19th April, only 7 weeks after being diagnosed with liver cancer - and 3 weeks tomorrow.
It was all so fast, at Christmas everything was normal (and we had a great Christmas), by the time I next visited he was too exhausted to go for lunch, and although then we did not know what was wrong I knew it was something bad, it was so unlike him. Shortly after that a nightmare couple of weeks waiting for CT Scan, which then confirmed the worst.
I guess in some ways I was lucky, we had some warning and got to spend time with Dad - I was up every Friday, Saturday & Sunday for the 7 weeks. Seeing him fade was awful though, and nothing you could do - the helplessness was horrific.
Thankfully for most of his illness he was not in pain, very nauseous though. His last few days were so tough - Dad was a proud active man, and having to help him to move in bed, or go to the toilet was I think the worst thing for him. His last 48 hours were horrific, and I cannot praise the Marie Curie nurses enough who helped achieve his wish of staying at home. Thankfully he was made comfortable during his last night, and the nurse left at 7.30, with another due at 9.00. Dad slipped away at 8.20, thankfully when we had the house to ourselves as the day before had been bedlam with carers, nurses and doctors. Was almost like he did it on purpose.
Since then I've largely been OK, although if one more person tells me "to be strong" I could scream. It's funny, no one of my age (33) has said that to me, maybe it's a generational thing. I felt bad that I hadn't been able to cry properly since Dad died, bar a bit of a sob once the funeral was done. All of a sudden yesterday I got hit, when turning the TV on was something Dad and I used to watch together and we watched whilst he was sick - that seemed to open floodgates and ended up pretty much crying myself to sleep last night. Having felt bad at not being able to cry, it then somehow felt self indulgent.
Anyhow, reading through others posts on here helped me a bit - as you wonder if you're "normal" in your reactions and behaviour - so thanks for listening to my venting ;-)