Good Evening, Doublejo, MartyT et al-- First, I want to thank MartyT on this board for the courteous & informative email she sent me [Novice/Bill] earlier today. I appreciate and applaud her (& others') efforts to keep all our posts secure. Accidental deletions happen. I've had my own bitter experiences with such. Thank you, Doublejo, for your effort to re-create an earlier post. What I read struck me in several ways, e.g., the weeping (in public & private), the distracting (& distracted) behaviors, and so on. I find my mind glancing tangentially from one memory to another in no discernible pattern, e.g., Jan always insisted on having the first tomato directly from the vine to her mouth; Bob delighted in making the offbeat, slightly risque comment in the most inopportune moments; Nancy & I had such plans for our gardens and for sharing some redecorating at both her house and here. Perhaps we are fortunate in having happy memories--esp.unbidden--come to us. And yes, I agree with your final comment. I'm sure my apparent need to do something right, correctly, is, as you say, because something went wrong. That's a marvelous insight. Yes, I'll share what I can from the closed grief workshop series beginning on Monday. I'll NOT breach confidentiality or anonymity; I've already agreed to that condition. I WILL share approaches to coping with the grief, generic incidents, etc. My best to all of you! WCS (aka Novice) [bill, I took the liberty of editing your post just a touch, to reflect the fact that I'm a "she," not a "he." ]
