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nancyf

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  1. Sorry for inadvertently submitting your post again, then inadvertently doing the same thing to mine. Actually, I'm laughing right now, at myself of course, and it feels good. We had to put my beloved dog down last week and this may be the first smile I've had.
  2. Ellen, I could have written your post, except my dad died suddenly in December, 2002 and I lost Mom on April 18, 2009. You have articulated most of what I have felt and am feeling. If I can be of any help to you, please email me. I am so sorry for your losses and the pain.
  3. I am so sorry. Your sadness is palpable and I wish there was some way your pain could be alleviated. I lost my mother last year at age 79 ... she had been very ill for several years with congestive heart failure. Have you considered seeing a professional who could possibly prescribe something to help you cope with the devastating despair you are suffering? I can tell you firsthand that nothing will take away the pain, yet the passing of time will dull it. I often repeat to myself, "we are all going to die, we just cannot choose when or how". I don't know how old your mother was, but I have to remind myself that I had 54 blessed years with my mom, and that some people lose their mother at far too young an age.
  4. Thanks to both of you. Elizabeth, I too have a Jack Russell, who belonged to my dad (he died in 2002), then became my mom's trusted loyal companion. She died in April 2009, and I've had him a couple of years now. I think he's grieving, as he has gone from "stalking" my every move to wanting nothing to do with me since Maggie's death. He's 14 and I know his time will be coming up in the next few years as well. Crying... I wonder when it will stop. I try to distract myself for a few minutes and then thoughts of my precious Mags come creeping in and my whole body feels racked with pain. I'm certain you know what that means. I never realized how bad this would hurt
  5. I'm there and fully understand what you are saying. I spent the years since my dad's death trying to take his place with Mom. For 7 years I took care of her every need and did everything humanly possible to keep her alive when she was literally dying of a broken heart. I look back now and wish I'd spent more time laughing with her, talking... reminiscing... instead of telling her what and how to eat, constantly monitoring medications, nagging about bad habits... I have to hope she knew how much I loved her, and what motivated me. Don't sell yourself short, you were there when no one else was.
  6. We had to put our beloved cocker spaniel down on Tuesday. I cannot stop crying and am simply riddled with grief. As hard as I try, I cannot yet see the light that has to be at the end of this long tunnel. Maggie was almost 12, and every bit my child... one who never grew up, never left home, and loved me as much as anyone on this earth ever has. God bless all of us here who are suffering. Thank you.
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