Those days when your emotions seem to be stretched to their limits are tough days. It helps knowing that I'm not the only one who is having to come to grips with this reality that I want no part of at times. It's been almost 3 weeks and I still haven't received the death certificate. I'm in a way, looking forward to it to see what they put as the cause and I'm dreading it because I don't want to keep reliving those horrible and frantic moments.
Thank you for your prayers. I'm a big believer in prayer and I know that it can bring comfort to an aching heart. You all are in my prayers as well. We are not alone in this. I'm reading a great book right now called Getting to the Other Side of Grief. It's written by a psychologist and a minister who lost their spouses. It has been a great source for me. It helps put things in perspective and how to deal with certain situations that could potentially be emotionally painful.
Karen, I hope you have had a good day today full of peace. I pray that for you. Just remember that when your on that rollercoaster that eventually there will come some relief at the end of the ride. God bless you and bring you strength and comfort.
Aquarius7, the loss of a parent is so very hard to take. I lost my precious mother in 2002. I miss her everyday, she was my confidant. I'm thankful that I still have my father but at 83 he is becoming frail. I so agree with you about the whole "closure" thing. I don't think we really ever find closure. I think we just gradually and at times painfully learn to live with it to some degree to where we can be happy again and learn that life is but a fleeting moment and we can go with it and be the best we can be to make our loved ones death's be the catalyst for something good in our lives. My father is a retired minister and he told me that when we go through these trials that God has chosen us because we are strong of heart. We will survive this and make something good come from it.
I will talk to the Admin of the ER but as for an autopsy being done, that's impossible, his family and I went with his wishes of cremation. The county has to wait 48 hours before the cremation to take place. I did everything I could but the county would not pay for the autopsy and the hospital wouldn't order one either. I was and I'm still livid about the whole thing. It just doesn't make any sense.
Kayc, thank you for your sound advice. I want to talk to the doctor that spoke to me that day. Surely she would know something. I got a bill from the hospital yesterday for a drug screen but no results. I think I'm going to call and see if I can get the results. They would have to tell me I would think.
God bless you all and know that you all are in my prayers. I pray for you all to have comfort and peace in these difficult days that lie ahead for us all.
Lots of hugs to you all,
Tishira