missingmickey

I went thru a really painful divorce years ago but was lucky enough to get some really good counselors help me thru it. I feel for Ceasar. It is hard to lose the person you have all your history and children with, no matter what the circumstances. Actually, I am very familiar with grief but for some reason, Mickey's death was a different kind. Maybe because of the guilt. None of my other grief experiences had guilt involved and I was always able to deal with it better. it seems as I've gotten older I have less defense mechanisms. (or they are just plain worn out!) I am off now for 6 days so I plan to try to do some things that I enjoy and find comforting, including framing his pawprints. How large is Ceasars' dog rehab that you see people take their dog to on the show? Have you been there? A friend of mine says her brother worked for Ceasar and said he is a very nice guy and that what you see on tv is how it really is. It's amazing to me that he always knows exactly what a dog needs even when I've seen him approach the same problem in another dog differently. I REALLY wish he would write a book that is nothing but dog psycology and how they think. I know he is always covering that in his books as he goes along, but I would like to have a book that does not tell you what to do for this or that, but one that just tells you how dogs view the world. I've looked for one on the net and can't find anything. I'm thinking I need to

Wow, I am so glad to hear that Ceasar is ok. I don't know exactly where it came from but a good friend of mine heard it, I believe, in a tv interview--I'll ask her if she remembers. Do you know how people can get his help? My parents could really use him with their dog and my mother loves him. I completely understand how working with other dogs helps. 2 days after Mickey died I helped a friend rescue a dog and working with her and seeing what a difference it has made to that dog has really been very healing for me. I think I would still be on the couch crying were it not for that dog. thanks for the communicator recommendations. I'm going to check them out. Thank you so much CJ (and Marty). You have been very helpful. I'll let you know how my communicator session goes.

Thanks again Cj. I can tell you are very gifted at helping people like me. I am a neonatal icu nurse and take care of premature/sick babies. I have been doing it for 30 yrs and the starfish poster made me think of that. I've always done my best for each patient with that philosopy. And I have often thought about that for Mickey too, before he died. We got him from the pound when he was a year old and I feel sure he probably would have been euthanized because he was older and not a puppy. But what a great dog he was. PLEASE send me the info on the animal communicators. I was thinking of going to a psychic to see if he came thru because I didn't know of any ones who did animals. that would be such a great comfort to me! Can you tell me which of Ceasar's books talks about death? the two my mother brought did not mention it. I'd really like to read what he has to say. I had read that he is getting divorced and his wife said after Daddy's death he spiraled into some sort of bad depression, etc. I guess he has grief issues too. (It hurt me when I heard Daddy died and I never met the dog so Ican only imagine his pain). Thank you so much

Thank you so much CJ. This has given me something to think about. Maybe he was ready to go and whoever knew it and took him. I sure wish it could have been painless tho. My mother brought me Ceasars' books today so I will read them and see if I can find some comfort there. I have felt better today but every time I step out in this heat I am just horrified to think what he went thru. My younger son keeps telling me that the suffering is over and there is no point in reliving it but I just loved him so darn much and he trusted me to look out for him. I keep thinking why didn't I have a pool on the back deck or have that doggie door put in--I had put it off because I was afraid he would not step over it due to his arthritis and this would happen) or have a doorbell and taught him to use it. I should have known better. But I know i have to let it go at some point. I just wish God would send a me a vision or dream or whatever and let me see him happily eating watermelon in heaven. Thank you for your kindness. Lisa

I lost my 16yr old Corgi mix on monday. I was at work and my adult son let him out and forgot him and he died from the heat. I found him when I got home. He had an enlarged heart due to old age and panted all the time anyway. He was arthritic and would only go out onto the deck to use the bathroom. He was doing so well I really thought I would get a few more years out of him. I was determined that he would not die a horrible death and would have euthanized him if he got to the point where life wasn't good anymore, but when I got 2 other younger dogs he came to life. He loved to go to the dog park and take rides in a stroller when I walked the other dogs. I am haunted by the way he died. My son is torn up too but he was my baby. I feel I let him down and I can only hope that if there is an afterlife and dogs are included, that he has forgiven us. I just don't know how I will ever get over this. Losing him was bad enought but to lose him this way is just too painful. I can't part with his bed but it hurts to have it there too.Please tell me how to ease this horrible pain!!