My husband of almost 40 years died from esophageal cancer in 2006. I later met a widower in a support group who had also been happily married almost 40 years. We became friends and later found ourselves falling in love ... something neither one of us ever expected to happen again!! During this time he was diagnosed with melanoma. Many of my friends and family, even his family, questioned why I would want to go "down that road" again. As far as I was concerned, there were never any guarantees -- either one of us could become ill, have a fatal accident, etc. So, we continued to make our plans to marry and became engaged Christmas Eve 2008. He passed away 8 months ago today of complications from the melanoma. I not only grieve for him, but now find myself grieving for my husband much as I did when he first died. I am grateful to God for the gift of love and being loved; not everyone has that in their lives. Still, sometimes the pain is almost unbearable. You all know that feeling of expecting the phone to ring with your loved one calling, seeing him or her smile and hearing their laughter, waiting for your loved one to walk through the door, seeing something or hearing something that you want so desperately to share with that one person who would appreciate it ... I don't know what God's plan is for me now; but I will try to be alert to what He may be trying to tell me. I wish you all Peace.