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afain1

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  1. Dear Marty T, thanks for such an in-depth response! You have hit on a lot of valid points. [quote name='MartyT' date='15 September 2010 - 01:07 Who am I now? Who needs me now? Where do I go from here? and What's the point of going on without her? My parents were married one week short of 51 years. I can not even remember how many times we thought we would lose her. She was in and out of the hospital so many times. Often taken by ambulance which that in itself is nerve wracking. Yes she was in ICU for 2 mts. and no hospice was involved. I think maybe now they could of been helpful. I think we expected her to come home again from yet another crisis, I know when we realized that would not happen it came as a surprise. My dad did go to grief counseling with me for the 4 wk. sessions. He said it helped him a lot. Thanks for telling me about the articles, that I will check into. I can print them out for dad. Annette
  2. Kellies, Sorry for your loss also. I have so many friends that have lost a parent but no one is going through this right now and no one has told me of memories of such sorrow and pain. We are going through this today and just reading that you have felt these things also is kind of a relief.
  3. LD Sorry for your loss, I wish I knew of this forum months ago.
  4. He has had a problem on and off during her illness. She did not allow it but...Thanks for your thoughts on this.
  5. Ron B. that's good advice. Actually I have photos of my mom all over, her at all ages. I use her things, wear her night gowns. Sorry if that's weird but it makes me feel "her" still. It's been 7 months since she passed and I make sure that everyday I smile at her photos.
  6. My mom died 2-7-10 after a 2 yr. battle with Pulmonary Hypertension. We had to take her off life supports. Knowing that she has a terminal illness and that she was in the end stages of this disease, I thought I had this all figured out, her dying. I thought I was prepared for that day. Boy what a shock to myself. This has been the worst thing that I have been through. I miss my mom so much that I feel physicaly ill. No one prepares you for the loss, pain & saddness. I went to a 4 week grief counseling. Everyone says this takes time. I don't think you ever really get over it, just got to figure out how to live with it. I am very worried about my dad. He has shut down. He drinks, I don't know how much. He sits on the couch watching tv. He says he has no ambition to do anything. He misses her bad and is very lonely. My adult children do not visit him because they don't know how to handle him. So I call everyday and visit, have him over 2-3 times a wk. for supper. I don't know how to help him start living again.
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