My mom died 2-7-10 after a 2 yr. battle with Pulmonary Hypertension. We had to take her off life supports. Knowing that she has a terminal illness and that she was in the end stages of this disease, I thought I had this all figured out, her dying. I thought I was prepared for that day. Boy what a shock to myself. This has been the worst thing that I have been through. I miss my mom so much that I feel physicaly ill. No one prepares you for the loss, pain & saddness. I went to a 4 week grief counseling. Everyone says this takes time. I don't think you ever really get over it, just got to figure out how to live with it.
I am very worried about my dad. He has shut down. He drinks, I don't know how much. He sits on the couch watching tv. He says he has no ambition to do anything. He misses her bad and is very lonely. My adult children do not visit him because they don't know how to handle him. So I call everyday and visit, have him over 2-3 times a wk. for supper. I don't know how to help him start living again.