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abergsma

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About abergsma

  • Birthday January 27

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  • Date of Death
    Sept 14/10
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    Female
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    Ontario, Canada
  1. Hopefully your dream will come true very soon. Good for you, keep the faith! Allana
  2. It is Thanksgiving here in Canada. Another holiday without my Cecil. I think it is harder this year than last. I guess I was still in shock last year. It is a beautiful sunny day. Happy Thanksgiving to all my Canadian friends! Allana
  3. Thanks so much for all your advice, it really helped. Allana
  4. I haven't been on this site for quite awhile. I really missed the conversations. It's been 13 mths since my Cecil passed away. I am still not back at work but have a goal of Dec 1 to change that. It is scary thinking about it but must do it and try to get on with my life. I am still going to therapy weekly and that is helping. Just sold my house and moving to an apartment at the end of the month. Have very mixed feelings but for financial reasons have no choice. My sister passed away in June which hasn't helped. I feel overwhelmed again....and am hybernating again. Need to pack but no motivation. I need to take back my life...any suggestions?? Thanks so much Allana
  5. Cheers to you Carol Ann! I am so glad to hear your spirits have lifted. You give me hope. Hugs Allana
  6. "solve the problem that is hurting the most.. the physical hugs and cuddles and kisses that I am missing so much. I realize the pain of losing a partner never goes away, but in time it should ease. I do have many days where I'm happy and can smile at the world, then something hits like a ton of bricks and once again the work begins to crawl out of the hole. Maybe I have to be more patient with myself and accept that this process of grieving is a lifetime thing."I feel totally the same way Lainey! Thanks for sharing. Hugs Allana
  7. Hi Melina I agree with all you said. I have one Daughter close to where I live but the rest are all over the world. It is very lonely and even my best friend has backed off, she didn't even wish me happy birthday last month. It was 5 months for me on Valentines and I have been living in a Grief Tsunnamis (as my facilitor in my widows and widowers group call it), for about 3 weeks now. I look at couples and hope they are good to each other while still feeling very jealous. It is a path that remains up and down like a roller coaster. Take care and know that you have many friends Hugs Allana
  8. Carol Ann All I can say is WOW! Thank you for sharing with all of us. You are remarkable. Hugs Allana
  9. Dimci I have the same problem with my sleep. It is almost 4 months and I am finally able to go to sleep before 1am. I still wake up during the night but can go back to sleep instead of getting up. Hang in there and do what you have to do. I know when I go back to work, which will be soon I will have to somehow get myself into a better routine. Hang in there. Allana
  10. Usually losts to do during the week but the weekends are so long and lonely. No one seems to bother anymore it is almost 4 months since I lost my husband. Why do they leave us alone (our family and friends? I just heard "My Heart Will Go On" by Celine Dion and cried once again.. It is so lonely!
  11. Happy Birthday Deb

  12. Thanks for sharing Bill. I lost my husband in Sept and it was very unexpected. To hear all of you voice your feelings is so helpful in my journey. Day by day , hour by hour, minute by minute it does change. Hope your New Year's Eve went okay. Thanks again Allana
  13. So well said Lainey. I think that part will be with us always. Best wishes to all for this New Year! Hugs Allana
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