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NancyM

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  • Birthday 11/24/1951

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    Feb 24, 2006
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  1. I agree with Annie, I lost my Mom Feb 2006 and you do eventually accept that this is part of life, not that you'll ever stop missing them but for me, I can now miss her and remember her with happy memories and not the sadness of her passing. I too believe you honor them by trying to live a good life which means being happy, I'm sure that is what our loved ones want for us. It takes time to get to that point of acceptance and it is different for everyone. I haven't posted in a while but I come back and read the posts often when I feel that twinge of sadness....it helps me, maybe it will help you too, so come back whenever you need to....we all understand this journey of grief. Take care.
  2. Thanks Leeann, I did have a nice day..... got teary eyed a few times thinking about how much I missed her but all in all a good day, and knowing my Mom I'm sure she is smiling that I'm moving along in my life and enoying the memories we shared.
  3. Three years today since I said good bye to my Mom. Sometimes it feels like much longer since I've seen her and other days it fels like 3 years have gone by so fast. Time does soften the sharp edges of grief when you lose a loved one, but you always miss them, but now I miss sharing the joys of my life rather than just the the sadness of losing her. I miss seeing her reactions to her two grand daughters as the grow. I miss watching her smile when she sees my sons, the grandsons she so loved, but I am doing fine. I've decided to have a great day today in honor of my Mom.
  4. Hi Jenn, I think of you often and you and the kids are always in my prayers, but I wanted to offer you some food for thought in hopes it may ease a little of the pain you are going through. A few months after my mom passed someone told me to always remember to live a good life and be happy and that would be the the best way to honor my mom. I thought to myself, "well that's easier said than done" in the midst of my grief how could I even think of being happy, but I started to think of my children and how they would feel when I pass, I realize they will be sad but as a mother you always want your children to be happy and enjoy life. So, as hard as it is for you missing Eric, also remember how much he loved life, everyone that knew him knows this about him, take all the time you need to grive the loss of his presence, but what an honor to him if you could eventually try and enjoy life, I know that's what Eric would want for you and the kids. Take little steps to enjoy just one thing each day in honor of Eric, and I will bet he will be smiling down on you and be proud. Love, Nancy
  5. I found this beautiful poem on the web...enjoy http://members.aol.com/Cuttyhunk/tomorrow.html
  6. What a wonderful idea I will join in too. My Mom passed Feb 24, 2006. I like the idea to include all Moms, my daughter in law just became a Mom on April 26. Thank you AnnieO
  7. Lori, I was "dreading" the year mark, that's one reason I arranged to have the breakfast with my son, I wanted to stay busy but still be with family. I don't think I will ever stop grieving the loss of my mom, but I made it through all the "firsts" without her and know that if I don't live well and go on with life and make new happy memories I will not be honoring her. It's what all mothers want for their children, to have a good life, and while I'll miss her forever I will try and live a good and happy life, and carry her with me in my heart. Thank you to all who responded, this is such a nice place to share not only the sad feelings but the good ones too.
  8. Today, Feb. 24th is a year since my mom passed. I can't believe it's a year already but then again it seems like forever since I last saw her, I miss her everyday. It has been a very pleasant day so far, I had a nice breakfast out with my son and daughter in law who is pregnant and due in May, when we returned home there was a floral delivery from my other son, daughter in law and grand daughter, a beautiful bouquet of yellow dasies my favorites, with a sweet card telling me they are thinking of me. It's so nice they all remembered and thought about my mom and how I would be today. I am blessed. I wish this next year to be a better one then last year, and filled with more happy memories then tears. Thank you all for being here for me this past year, I read all the posts everyday, it has helped me through some tough times.
  9. Derek, I relate to your post about the one year mark. My mom passed Feb 24, 2006 and it feels like, "if I can just get past the one year mark, I'll be ok" I guess in a way we won't have to face all the "firsts without them" phase, but we will always miss our loved ones. I don't post often, but I read the posts everyday. This forum has helped me so much, just reading how we are all "related" in this journey of grief. I wish you and your son all the best in life and I will keep you both in my prayers along with everyone else traveling this road of saddness, knowing we will all come through it eventually, learning so much from each other on this unwanted journey. God bless us all. Nancy
  10. Lori, I know exactly how you feel. Thanksgiving was nice but there's always that underlying sadness of missing my Mom. The next day, the 24th was my birthday, first one without Mom, and she passed on Feb 24th, 2006, so the tears came a few times that day. You don't want to have to tell your family all the time "I miss my mom" and sometimes I just feel they don't remember that I miss her everyday especially on the 24th of each month. It's almost like my family never wants to mention anything about Mom for fear it will upset me but I feel it would make me feel better just knowing they remember my pain of missing her. I know she is happy now and not wanting me to be sad, but that is easier said than done, now especially with the holidays coming up......and the first ones without her. It really helps to read all the posts and know that others feel the way I do and understand. It also helps to write it out here and vent your feelings to people that validate your feelings. Thank you all. Nancy
  11. Shell, I totally agree with what you posted to Charlie, I feel all those things, although it will only be 4 months since my mom passed. It feels like you go through the motions of life but there is that sadness that is always present in your heart, even when you are enjoying events and laughing that sadness is there with you, the sadness of missing your loved one. I'm sure that feeling will be with us forever but I have heard it will become easier to deal with and move on. You're right, this grieving process takes a long time, but with forums like this and a few good friends we all come through it eventually. thanks for your thoughts, Nancy
  12. Babs, I know how you feel about your husband not doing the right thing to help with your grieving, but I think most men feel that should be able to "fix" things for their wives, some do not have the skills of how to comfort, all they see is that you are hurting and they want to stop the hurt. I lost my mom on Feb 24,2006, and I find that I get teary sometimes for no reason, just a thought of her will remind me how much I am missing her. My husband will say "what's wrong" I just want to scream, I really don't want to keep saying "I miss my mom" sometimes all you need is a hug and someone to hold you while you cry. No one can "fix" this for you, you have to go through all the stages of grief whatever that is for you, what we all need is support in our grieving, and allow us to grief at our own pace. We will never stop missing our loved ones and when people say it will get easier, at this point, I still have trouble believing that. I know it will never get easier, as so many on here have said you learn to live with it and move on. I know that my mom would want me to be happy and have the happy memories of her and the missing her part want hurt quite so much so I CAN have the happy memories. There are lots of people here to vent to, come back often and read the posts. That's what I have been doing and it has helped me, So much so that I am able to send my first post today. Nancy
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