Hello~ I am new here as well. My mom passed away and about 3 months ago and I am now trying to figure out how to care for my dad. He is in so much pain and I have no idea how to help. He's very depressed, he's taken to drinking and pills. I'm concerned about him. I know he's in pain and he's lonely but I have no idea what to do to help him. My mom and him were married for 45 years.