debbylh

My house is up for sale,(since March). A lot of people have looked at it but no buyer yet. I dread when I have to empty the house. I also will be happy because my husband died in this house. I will have to move into a apartment. I looked at the one i will be living at. It is near stores since I don't drive which is a plus. My house is near nothing,(a bar down the road). I take one day at a time.

Very true. Helped lift my spirits some . thank you. debbylh

I keep hoping it is all a dream too. My husband & I were married 31 years. I'm only 54. I am so lonely. It has been 5 monthes for me .

I am so alone too! My husband passed away in Oct. Have 2 grown children who live near by. One stops over or calls every week. The other one I call her 1st!. Have a 3rd that lives out of town. She helps with my bills. E_mails me more then calling. My father-law treats me like a daughter. I'm alone though with no stores near by & I don't drive! Today it is snowing(storm starting) & I'm sad! Getting house ready to sell! I try to think positive, but it is hard..

I feel like I keep going down instead of up too. My husband died in Oct. In Nov. I had a Auction. In Dec. were the holidays. He never liked the holidays<(being around a lot of people). In Jan. I found a new home for my two dogs. Feb. was Valentines Day,(sad time). Now with March soon approaching I must put my house up for sale. I try to be strong. It isn't always easy. Got some new furniture, wich made me feel good. Being around people at work helps,(work at a Nursing Home). Take care, everyone & thanks for listening..

My husband passed away in Oct. I do plenty of crying too. Sometimes a tv program will make me cry. I chat with family on Facebook, which helps some. Keeping busy helps too. I'm busy getting my house ready to sell. Nights are terrible for me. I don't always sleep well. I get daily grief devotions wich help too. The web site is:www.griefshare.org It will eventually get better for us. Hang in there. Take care.

Valentines day was hard for me. Spent the day at work & the night home alone. Talked to my kids on FaceBook which helped some. Been busy getting my house ready to sell. Don't sleep well lately,(mind racing lately). I know things will get better,(only been 4 monthes since my husband passed).

I e-mailed the new dog owners & the dogs are doing fine. Yes, I'm sure I'll have a good weekend with my kids. Thank You Debby

Very nice poem.

Well we,(WI) sure got plenty of snow! Was snowed in Wednesday. If my hubby was here he would of had it plowed right away. Oh, well. I am thankful for the two angels,(neighbors) who do the plowing for me. Very quiet & lonely without the dogs. Kids are coming the weekend to help clen, etc. to get the house up for sale. Hope the house doesn't take long to sell,(was empty for year & a half till we bought it). Have my eye on a apartment complex in town. It is near stores that I can walk too. Well otherwise I am ok. Hope everyone else is ok too.

Thank you for your letter. I will be calling later to make sure everything is going ok with the dogs. The house is really quiet & lonely now. I spend a lot of time on the computer or watching tv. It snowed some this morning & snowing now,(UGH)! I am ready for Spring.lol Take care..

Thank You VERY MUCH..

Found a home for my dogs today. I miss them already. I'm glad they are together though. Now I move on to the next step.. I will be getting my house ready to go up for sale. I will take one day at a time 7 hang in ther. Glad I have family & yous to listen, care & pray for me. Had a nice weekend. Hope the same for everyone else. Have a good week..

I have a couple that are coming to look at the dogs Sunday,(she wants to keep them together). Sound good. Otherwise Two Left Paws(they foster dogs till they are adopted) are calling back Monday. Otherwise Furry Bottoms (another place that fosters dogs) is coming next week to see the dogs. Looks like I have 3 good potentials. Had a good day with my oldest daughter today. We went shopping & out for lunch. For supper I took her & her husband out for supper. Home spending time with the dogs now. Thank you for caring. Hope you back & leg get better. Take care..

It is so true. We must take one day at a time. Right now I have finding a home for my dogs,(have 3 potentials so far). Then My house goes up for sale & on & on. I try to stay focused on just the dogs for now. Too much & I get stressed out.

It takes time for things to get better. You need to focus on yourself & children for now. The doctors will help you get through it with your daughter. I have crying days, sad days, & angry days. They are all part of our griefing. Put the bf on hold for now. Maybe he will eventually come around to except everything. I had a pretty good day off today. Got some things organized. Did some relaxing too. Might of found a foster home for my dogs,(coming to meet dogs next week). Take care.

My children are helping me sort through stuff. Thanks for caring..

I'm doing ok today. Hope everyone else is too. Packing stuff to keep & not. (Knick knacks).

No, it isn't easy or fair. Give the kids a big hug & relax(try) with a cup of coffee or a cappicunio. I will be thinking of you. I'm hear to listen..

Maggiet I feel as you do. Your bf sound like he his self centered. You can go on without him. Do you have parents or family near by that can help with the children? My husband died from inhaling too(cartridges from a whip cream mixer). My children are older. I get daily e-mails from a website that helps me. It is www.griefshare.org. I have plenty days that i cry & cry too. That is part of the griefing. We are here to listen to you. Take care. Hang in there.

Yes, I'm doing ok. Had a auction in Nov.(had a lot of tools). My husband was a auto tech. Now I am trying to find a home for my two dogs. In Feb. the house goes up for sale. I will find an apartment when my house is sold then. Oh, on top of it all I don't drive! I have very good caring friends 7 family. my husbands dad is like a father to me,(he lives out of town). I am a CNA at a nursing home,(been one for over 30 years). My house is near no stores, etc. so my kids take me to the store, etc. i get daily prayers from a different grief web site. It helps. I hate nights & eating alone. I will survive. Thank you for caring & listening.

Kay, Thanks for the reply. I checked out a site called CDwives.com. It made me sad & depressed. I'll let you know if I check out the site. Took a me day today. Got my hair done & just relaxing. Thanks for listening.

Marg Today is my first post too. I found this site by browsing. I lost my husband Oct. 5,2010. he inhaled from whip crem cartridges & was wearing women clothing. I found him when I got home from work. My kids are older. They think he died of a heart attack,(I don't want them to know). I need to seek counseling. I will be selling my home,(can't afford by myself). Need to find a home for my dogs,(can't have in apartment). I am still paying off his charge card bills. I'm learning to pay my own bills, etc. My kids help me a lot, which I am thakful. I am new to this site to. I haven't gone to counseling yet, but know I need too. Also I don't drive!