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  1. Oh...What a beautiful tribute to Chinook. I believe with all my heart that we will be reunited with our fur babies when we pass on. How arrogant is for those that interpret the bible so strictly and profess that they somehow now that the creator only valued humans as worthy of entering heaven. Why not animals? They are "innocence" in its purest form, and they are capable of all the range of emotions we are. Bicky (my dog) was perhaps the most civilized and loving being I have ever known...
  2. Thanks Maylissa and Kay C! I started searching the web after I had my dream last week and up popped this info from this very credible source (PHD and all). . And thanks Marty for citing the source for me! Mark (and Bicky)
  3. Here is something that may be of interest: 8 characteristics of true visitation dreams True “visitation dreams” are actually very easy to identify because they are very different than “everyday dreams.” Characteristics of most (but not all) visitation dreams include the following: Characteristic #1: The most important characteristic of a true visitation dream is that it feels “real.” It will also be very vivid. Characteristic #2: If you have to ask whether the visitation dream was really a visitation dream, then it probably was NOT a visitation dream. They are so real and vivid that you won’t have to ask this question. When you do have a visitation dream, you may wonder if it was truly real; but in your heart or gut, you will “know” it was real. Characteristic #3: Because they are so real and so vivid, you will remember visitation dreams very clearly for days, months, years . . . probably for your entire lifetime! Characteristic #4: The person (or animal) will almost always appear in the dream to be completely healthy and behaving in a loving manner. They will rarely appear sick or injured. They will never be angry, disappointed, depressed, or punishing. They will be “whole, complete, and perfect” because they are now reconnected with God/Source energy. Characteristic #5: Whether or not they speak to you verbally in the dream, they will communicate very clearly. (NOTE: As you’ll see in the next two examples, in neither of the dreams did actual verbal communication occur; the messages were conveyed telepathically and were completely clear.) Characteristic #6: When they do communicate (either verbally or non-verbally), it isn’t because they want to engage in idle “chit-chat.” It isn’t easy for deceased loves ones to enter a dream. They come with a purpose, and they will convey the message and then be gone. Characteristic #7: Most often, their messages fall into the category of “reassurance.” They come to let you know that they are fine and that they want you to be happy. Occasionally, they will come with a warning; however, when giving a warning, they will give you loving support and you will feel reassured by their presence. Characteristic #8: After a visitation dream, when you wake up, you will often be filled with a sense of peace and love. [source: 8 Characteristics of Visitation Dreams, by Anne Reith, PhD]
  4. Dear Maylissa Thank you so very much for the reply. Yes, I am so happy I got to hold my little Bicky once again...And I am so happy for you that you got to hold Sabin-boy and experience your Nissa-girl's kisses once again. And thank you for sharing your experience...I truly never expected this kind of experience. Every night when I go to bed I wonder whether it will be the night I see my Bicky again. Life is full of wonders indeed.
  5. Thank you so much Marty, Cakes, and KayC The more I think about it, the more I believe it is a visitation. It was so real, so different than any other f dreamI have had before. Life is full of wonderful moments, gifts, and lessons....Instead of questioning, I intend to accept and embrace. Again, thank you so much for the support...It means so much. Yours, Mark (and Bicky)
  6. Hi All Last night I had the most extraordinary and wonderful dream. It was fleeting but so real.... It was a simple scene, taking place in a nondescript day. I opened my car door and on the passenger seat was my little Bicky curled up in a ball. He looked at at me with with happiness and relief, his little tail wagging. He appeared as he did a year or so before he passed; a little older but healthy. I remember I stood looking at him and thinking to myself "this is impossible, Bicky is dead". But then I thought "I don't care how unreal this is, I'll take it". I then reached over to him and hugged him tightly. His snout nuzzling my neck. His warm breath massaging my neck, just as we would do countless times in his all-too-short life together. I felt so connected with him, so complete and content. Then I woke up. But instead of that disappointed feeling one would think I would have after having my Bicky and then losing him again, I felt warm and thankful. At first I concluded that it was just a dream, but later on in the day, it occurred to me that perhaps it was Bicky's way of making contact with me. The universe is full of wonders and I believe anything and everything's possible. This has given my such great comfort. Anyway, I thought I would share it with all of you.
  7. Maylissa, Cakes01, and Marty Thanks you so much for your support. Discussing an issue like this friends that truly understand and care is a tremendous comfort. I definitely will look over this links and various threads dealing with psychics. I will take my time and find one that comes recommended. And Kay C I definitely will let you all know how it goes. Thanks again everyone for your support!
  8. Maylissa Thank you so much for understanding. The truth is, these last few months, I've hit a bit of a wall. I miss him (Bicky) so much...Of course, time eases the pain in ways, but there is hole in my heart that is still stubbornly open.... the truth is, I would give just about anything to make contact with him, even it were just for a fleeting moment, to say how much I love and miss him and to wait for me. I must admit I have been toying with the idea of getting in touch with Bicky through a dog psychic...I am skeptical of such things but I am so desperate to ease this suffering I hold, I would do anything. I do realize overcoming true grief is a journey that does not necessarily end. I hope I haven't hijacked this thread;) Thanks so much.... Mark (and Bicky)
  9. When my my fur baby (Bicky) passed away, I cried like a baby for weeks. Up to that point in my adult life (I was 41 years old), I had very rarely shed a tear. But there I was, blubbering like a baby...Wailing like out of scene of "Zorba the Greek". I had never experienced raw grief like that before, and I was completely overwhelmed and consumed. If it weren't for this website, I don't know what I would have done... Anyway...Yes, real men cry....I am proof of that... Mark (and Bicky)
  10. I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish you and your wife love and strength as you navigate your grief. Mark (and Bicky)
  11. So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful dog, and what a beautiful tribute. Mark ( and Bicky)
  12. Well said KayC! And Rebbeyred99 I have already written a few more chapters, but I am just letting them settle for a while before I post them.. I don't think I'll ever stop writing about the Bixter.
  13. Rebbyreb99 Thank you so much for your post. I, like yourself, usually come on this website late ate at night (early in the morning). This is when my mind and heart start to think of Bicky and the loneliness starts to creep in. This website is such a nice refuge to retreat to when I am in need of understanding and comfort. I don't know how I would have been able to navigate my grief without the comfort of others who understand my pain and loneliness. . I believe that our fur babies go to heaven and we will eventually be joined with them. I also, like yourself, sometimes have had dreams of Bicky. I like to believe that this is Bicky's way of making contact with me (holding me over) until I eventually "earn my wings"and we are together again. I wish you love and strength as you embark on the year 2013. Yours, Mark (and Bicky)
  14. Thank you so much Kavish and Kayc for your continued support It's so comforting to know there are people that understand my grief such as you two. I believe dogs (and animals in general) are worthy of as much (or more) love, respect, and trust than humans. I pity those who have never experienced the beauty of a relationship with these Earthly angels. Love transcends species. Such a difference is a technicality (I believe) in God's eyes. I know that some out there would consider this blasphemy, but I just know it to be true in my heart of hearts. Thank you so much again, Mark (and Bicky)
  15. It has been two years now since the passing of my dear Bicky. It's amazing how fast time passes . When I lost him, I couldn't imagine being able to get through a single day without him by my side...but here I am. Actually, I find myself in the same place I did a year ago (on his 1st year anniversary) ..managing through life, but still grieving. Most of my friends and family members show little understanding as I navigate this grief process for "just a dog". It is therefore not an understatement to say that this board has been a Godsend. I really don't know how I would have been able to get through all this without the love and support of the. people on this board. Thank you so much. Below is a piece I wrote in honor of Bicky's first year anniversary. I thought it fitting to repost it in honor of Bicky's second anniversary. Again, thank you all for your support. January 2nd , 2012 will mark the 2nd year anniversary my beautiful baby boy (my pet dog, Bicky) made his way to the Rainbow Bridge. As some of you know, my girlfriend (Naoko) and I found Bicky as a stray on the streets of Tokyo in 2002, and we were blessed with nine wonderful years with him. One year on, I am still mourning his loss greatly. Especially around the holidays, I feel the emptiness and the sense of loss is amplified. I have some weeks that are better than others, but I’ve found that the waves of grief can sneak up and overwhelm me. I am guessing that this pain and sorrow will never completely dissipate with time, and the quiet grief and loneliness I experience at times is just the new normal for me. His death has made me a better person though, helping me understand the value of friendship, love, and how precious (and fleeting) life can indeed be. I keep his urn in a prominent place in my house, along with a digital photo frame with over 500 rotating pictures of him. This has brought Naoko and I much needed comfort. For those interested, Bicky died beautifully. Leading up to his passing, he had been quite ill for 4 or 5 months. The veterinarian determined that he had Cushing’s disease, but was somewhat optimistic that some new (revolutionary) medicine could help his condition. Bicky slowly deteriorated though. I was in complete denial and convinced myself that he would miraculously rebound and put it all behind us. But it was not to be. Bicky’s last Christmas was tranquil and joyful. We spent it up in the mountains (at Naoko’s parents’ house) in Northern Japan. Although he had trouble walking, we made a beautiful bed for him right beside the Christmas tree. He was surrounded by everybody he loved and he was even able to eat a little turkey and enjoy the Christmas ambience. He seemed so happy and content. His condition took a turn for the worst though on New Years’ day, so Naoko and I decided to drive Bicky to a veterinarian hospital in Tokyo. The doctor was a bit taken aback by Bicky’s deteriorating condition. He hydrated him with an IV, and instructed us to bring him back the next day. That night we lay Bicky down in his bed, located in the same living room we spent so many wonderful times together. For the previous 4 months, I had slept on the living room sofa, so I could be with Bicky during the evening in case he needed me. His bed was right beside mine. Bicky looked much better. I remember I crawled up beside him, and whispered, “We have a big day tomorrow Mr. Handsome; we have to wake up at 8am to go to the vet’s”. Bicky licked my nose and then rested his head on his (favorite) soft green pillow. I put a light blanket on him, kissed him one more time, and turned off the light. I kept a flashlight beside me, so I could sometimes see how he was doing during the evening. I turned the flashlight on once as if to say “hello”, and Bicky wagged his tail as if to say “I’m o.k. Now try to get some sleep Mark”. I did just that. I slept like a rock that night, and the sun was already up by the time I awoke. I turned over to say “good morning” to my Bicky…but as soon as I laid my eyes on him, I realized that he chose that night to let go. Thank you again everybody for your (continued) support. And thank you Bicky for being my best friend (ever). Mark
  16. Kavish Thank you so much. I also believe that Bicky is eternally in me. I also look forward to the day he and I are joined together again. This thought is what helps me get thorugh the lonely times. And Kay C I love that picture of "Mozzy".So cute! Since we're sharing pictures, I'm attaching some Christmas pictures of my Bicky. Sorry guys; I couldn't resist. Merry Christmas everybody!
  17. Dear Courtney I am so sorry to hear about your house bunny; they can make such beautiful companions. I am happy to hear about your new addition to your family "Dexter". Yes, it seems that Dexter and Bicky have a lot in common. Bicky had ticks, fleas, heartworms, you name it, when we first met on that day that changed both of our lives forever (July 23rd, 2002). I hope Dexter can mange through this case of tick fever. It sounds like he is in wry good hands. After Bicky recovered from his heartworms, ticks, and fleas, I realized he was the one that eventually saved me ( and not the other way around). Thank you so much for your support and keep us updated on Dexter's progress!
  18. Lol What an absolutely beautiful picture! They are so adorable! Thank you so much! Mark (and Bicky)
  19. Dear Kavish Thank you so much for this message. Yes, looking into the eyes of one our fur babies is looking into their souls. Casper and Jasmine sound sound adorable. Often times the relationship dynamic is different between one with a dog and a cat. Cats are often less dependent and aloof. Still, they love in their own way. Dogs, on the other hand, eagerly display their love and loyalty. And it really makes no difference who (technically) own Casper and Jasmine, it's who loves, respects, and spends time with them that matters. Merry Christmas! Mark (and Bicky)
  20. Thank you so much Kavish! That really means a lot to me. Mark (and Bicky)
  21. LoL Great story I know that "toother-grin" all too well!
  22. Tracy Completely agree with you and Kay C. When somebody gives me a strange look or smirk when the see the urn of Bicky or all his pictures, I just feel sorry for them, having not known the wonderful love one can feel and relationship one could have with a fur baby. If there were ever a fire at my home, the first thing I would be rescuing (other than Naoko:)) would be Bicky's urn. Weird? I guess so. But I'll wear thatnas a badge of honor, love, and loyalty to the Bixter!
  23. Justme2 I forgot to thank you for that beautiful quote "gone from my side but not from my heart". It is so true. I can't stop thinking about it...It's perfect! And thank you for the tip on James Herriot. I have heard of him, and the books that you mentioned, but I have never read him. I will order one of his books for Christmas. Mark (and Bicky)
  24. Justme2 Wow, thank you so much for your beautiful post. Your "Derby Girl" sounds precious and I can understand from your touching post how important she was to you.. She was a Great Dane? Such beautiful, noble dogs. I also plan to have my ashes mixed with Bicky's ashes when I pass. I promised this to him and I have already informed my family (in case I am taken prematurely). Your post(s) also inspired me to write more. Though, I love to write for just Bicky's sake, it's so encouraging to know that it entertains and helps others. I wish you the best of luck as you navigate through your bereavement. It's very comforting to know there are others in this world who feel the way I do. Yours, Mark (and Bicky)
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