Anne,
I found this website last night and here I am too ... I wrote to "trying2cope" as she lost her father on Jan 21. And I saw your post about your mom. My father, who was a healthy 66 yr old man, complained of heartburn and took some tums before he went to bed. Died in his sleep too. I've seen my mom failing due to various hip replacements, back surgery, COPD, hypertention... you name it - but my dad? Really? I thought he would live for another 20 yrs!
As I mentioned to "trying2cope" - I am a 41 yr old mother of 4 (kids are 19/7/5/1) yes they keep me young and on my toes. My father and I had a falling out on May 1st, 2010 over my 19 yr old son and tough love that I was attempting. My father intervened after many pleas to let me handle things - he refused and the rest I guess is history. I refused to speak w/him the past 8 months. He asked many times via email and thru relatives. I simply wasnt ready. I was seeing a Dr and found myself returning to church in hopes of finding a way to forgive him. But another plan was in store for me and my dad. I did not make amends, as I hoped to one day and he died not knowing how much I truly did love him.
I am so numb. I feel like I am in a haze. Like a lala land. Kids definitely distract me but I feel like mommy needs to cry. It hits me in the car when a sad song comes on. Or when I see a picture of him. It breaks my heart! And even more that my 3 littles will probably not remember him! Especially my little boy who is 14 months - he was five months when my dad saw him last. Every time I look into my little boys eyes it breaks my heart that I kept my dad from knowing him.
I hope that we can keep in touch ...