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  1. Blondie just checking in to see how you are doing. Still praying for you all!! Hope you can feel my hugs!! sunshine

  2. Hi Den my nameis sunshine. iI lost my Mom in September 2010. Wow! Sounds like it's been a heck of a year. To many loses and no time for grieving. I'm so sorry for your loss!! My Mom had lung cancer and I took care of her for 2 years. I also was power of attorney for her. Sounds like you have really been struggling! I'm here to listen if you want to talk! I will s...

  3. Hello Rabbit my name is sunshine. Welcome!! If you would like to talk write me back. You came to the right place to get support. Hope to hear from you! May the Lord give you strength!!!

  4. Hi I understand how you feel! I lost my Dad 23 years ago and I still get choked up looking at pictures and thinking about the times we shared as Father and Daughter. 6 months ago I lost my Mom. She was my best friend!! It still maybe early yet but try writing down what your feeling or special memories. You can share here or keep it to yourself. May the Lord give you strength!...

  5. Hello lostinthewoods! I'm sunshine. Welcome!! I'm here because I lost my Mother to lung cancer sept. 2010. I hope you can find some comfort here. Write me if you need to talk. Feel the hugs!!!

  6. Bondie how are you doing? I've been thinking of you and your Daughter. It must be so hard watching your beautiful Daughter slowly slipping away. I pray for both of you daily!! I have 1 Daughter and just can't imagine what your going through! I know you come here to cry out! I am listening!! I'm sure you ask yourself why? Why my baby!! It is in Gods ha...

  7. I am so sorry for your loss!! That really is a shocking outcome from a fall. I'm sure no one saw that coming. I'm pretty new here also. I don't always know what to say. I'm glad you have your faith and your church ladies to share with. As you lost your best friend I too have lost my best friend. You your husband and I my Mom. We may both be feeling alittle different but we are still grieving just the same! Nobody understands what we feel! It is our loss, our loved one, and no one can tell you the right or wrong way to grieve. Sharing does help!!! I will pray for you that the Lord will give you strength!! God Bless!!!
  8. Its me again! My siblings some of them werent there when they were sick. I really don't expect them to be there for me. I have brother that lives less than 5 minutes from me and he has had no contact with me. Before or after Mom's death. I do understand that lonely feeling! I know I did everything right!! Just don't know what his problem is. So i'm sending you hu...

  9. Hi Aquarius7. I too have trouble sleeping at night. I lost my Mom sept. 2010. I was her primary caregiver for 2 years. I think I just slept when she did. I have yet to get back to a normal sleeping pattern. I think about her always. We were very close!!! Lost my Dad it will be 24 years in june. Was caregiver for him as well. My siblings had different relationships with them. They ar...

  10. Hi DVLocker! I'm sorry for your loss! I didn't suffer the loss as you, but I'm having some of the same problems. I lost my Mom after caring for her for 2 years. She was my best friend! I'm sure you know that feeling. I find my self being lost among the living. Itfeels like i've forgotten how to live. You get so consumed with caring for your loved one!!...

  11. Hi backtolife! I'm sunshine. Glad you could join us. Lost Mom sept 2010. Hope maybe we could be friends!

  12. Hi keyboardplayer! You know I lost my Dad 23 tears ago so the only thing I have with his voice on it is the Cassettes when we went to I can cope groups. My sister taped all the sessions we attended. Back then they were just ciming out with video cameras that had sound. But mostly home movies. No sound just video. When my Mom passed away we have her on video alot so when I miss her I watch. ...

  13. Your kidding!!! I collect bears too!! they are nice to snuggle with. I have a huge bear my Mother in law gave me for christmas a few years ago. My daughter has a huge dog. She calls him Stevie!!! I also have a blanket that was my Mom's that I like to snuggle with. It makes me feel like shes giving me a hug everytime I wrap it around me. You know my Mom and Her sister used to like to sing together. Mostly christian sings. You picture of your furry little stuffed dog is really cute! Where did you get him from? I definetly like the glasses. Does he have a name? It's funny how little things can comfort us! If you want to talk some more write me back. Hugs and prayers go out to you and your family!!!
  14. Wow keyboardplayer It's been a rough year!! I'm so sorry for your loss! My children were very close to their Grandmother. They too didn't have a father in the picture either. We lived with Gram for 8 years. So I do understand your grief. It stinks that people come and go from our lives. But what beautiful memories the leave behind!!! Think of just that! There are somethings people or God can take from us. But I feel there is always a reason!! We will always have good memories!! I'm sure Granny is in a better place. Where there is no more suffering. Maybe my Mom will meet her in heaven. My Mom would be proud of me reaching out to you during this difficult time. Hugs and prayers for you and your family!!!!! Keep the Faith!!!
  15. Hi it's sunshine! I see you have had a serious loss. Do you want to talk about it? I don't know what I can do or say to help you, I'm a good listener!!! Hugs and prayers!!!

  16. Thank you for giving another perspective on my brothers behaior. I keep telling myself that he is an adult. He made conscious decisions. He and only he has to live with his decisions. It is ashame that he missed out on those 2 years to be with her. It seems like he has totally disconected from the family. I guess its his loss when he choses not being active with his siblings. Thanks and God Ble...

  17. I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. My sisters were of great help during the time Mom was sick. But my brothers were another story. My older brother said when Mom got sick if I need anything call. So of course when I was getting care giver burnout I called and asked for help. He had a very lame excuse for not coming. He started not answering the phone I always got answering machine. My brother was an alcholic when my Dad was sick. He made excuses and promised my Dad so many times and diappointed my Dad. He would call me from bar and give excuses. He doesn't drink anymore but I guess he still have those behaviors. He promised me and I take promises very seriously!! Especially under the circumstances. My younger brother Helped when he could . His life is so messed up. He too is a drinker. The last month he went out of his way to help when he could. I just have this anger towards my older brother. I have not talked to him since the funeral and even then it was very limited. He lives 5 minutes from my home and he never contacts me. I don't know what i expected after what we went through with Dad. My aunt made cookies for us at christmas and I didn't give them to him. I ate them!!! I guess that was probably immature on my part, but I just can't get past this anger! Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated.
  18. Kavish thank you for you response about crying. It was much appreciated!!! write anytime! God Bless!!!

  19. sunstreet, thank you for your reply on crying. I very much appreciate the time you took to post. I will cry when i need too!! We are all different! Can't compare my feelings with someone elses. That is why God made us so unique! Some stronger some weaker! I believe and have faith. When Mom was sick I found my way back to my Christian upbringing. So something good did come out of Mom's death. Thank you so much and God Bless!!!
  20. Welcome! I lost my MOm september 2010. Still have trouble coping. If you would like to talk I'm here for you. Letting go is the hardest! Write me and we can share.

  21. Hi Reno, Im sunshine. I'm hear to welcome you! I'm new to this sight as you. I lost my Mom september 2010. Obviously you have had a loss also. If you would like to share. Just start typing. I'm a good listener. I found it's better to talk to total strangers. They look at your situation from a different perspective. Know we all experienced a loss. Hope to talk to you soon. I...

  22. Bondie hi I am so sorry to hear of your Daughter's illness. I have only 1 Daughter of my own and I just couln't imagine her getting that ill. So as one Mom to another I feel for you and your Daughter! I was a caregiver for my Mom for 2 years nd just lost her inseptember 2010. Caregiving is exasting! Emotionaly and physical, mentally!!! Do you have some one to help you once in awhile. I had hospice for Mom witch was a great help! Tell you yhe truth I couldn't have done it without them! They not only helped with Mom the helped all of us. When I was 18 my best friend died from cancer after 5 years of hell! I hope that God will be with you and your Daughter! Cherish the time you have and know your Daughter loves you for taking such good care of her. I will add you to my prayer list that agod won't let her suffer much longer! I'm sending you both Hugs!! Leave to the Lord and all your prayers will be answered! Keep the faith!!
  23. I'm sorry that your feeling this way! Wo are you angery at Him or God for turning your life upside down. I can't amagin lossing my soul mate! Just remember our life is in Gods hands and we don't always have any control over that. Know that he is with you everyday and he would want you to move on with your life. He wants you to be happy again! We can't waste the time ...

  24. I don't think that it's out of line. As time goes by you think that no body rembers their loss. I think a card with a simple message would probaly be appreciated! Some times they don't want to talk because it brings up all those old emotions! I would give it a try and put your current phone number in it or email address so he knows he has that option to get in touch with you. You know it's the birthdays, holidays, anniversary of their loved ones death. These are the hardest! Maybe he will call. You could try then to get him to talk about good things from past. I think men just hold in more of thier emotions than us women do!! You give that a try and let me know how it goes. Goodluck!!!
  25. LIKE WHAT DID YOU AND YOUR dAD LIKE TO DO TOGETHER? Or maybe you could tell me a special story about him. My Favorite memory of my Dad is when he came home from work and suprised my brother and I with alittle puppy! Or when he took the time to teach me how to fish. He also taught me to drive after having a heart attack!!! Oh he was so patient with me!! I was afraid he wo...

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