Cheryl, I totally agree with your synopsis. I have often thought about this "Grief & emotional pain" thing in detail and from the support groups, how we all may deal with it. Everyone's experience is different and unique to the individual. In my case, my soulmate and I knew a year ahead of the time of her "life's Passage/Journey" to Heaven, of the utimatcy. I have often pondered if it is better to deal with a spousal lost with Notice ahead of Time, or a situation such as yours, where you see your spouse that morning, never to see them again. I was always so afraid for my Sharon that I would one day leave in the morning to never return. We don't have the answers, but in my case at least we had some time together, to talk, to love, to plan, which I feel has helped me immensely with my grief challenges. No, I don't think the grief ever goes away, but the pain lessens. Grief and Pain must be the "healers", if you accept it and think positive. Recently, I realized that I did indeed marry a Widow myself 16 years ago after Sharon and I met. She already new how I was feeling and what I would have to deal with. I am grateful to our Lord for the life I had with Sharon, but now I have accepted that I have a new journey and role to fullfill. Finished a book awhile back called "The Secret", and my most valuble take-away was, "negative thoughts to God and the Universe attact negativity, so we must ask the Universe for what we want and believe we will get it. Negative attracts negative, positive attracts positive.
Keep up the Good Work and your strong Beliefs and Positivity.