I am new to this site and am hoping to find some comfort and suggestions for working through the next few weeks/months. My father-in-law is 80 years old and came back from Florida for the summer in early July. He chose not to tell his children how his prostate cancer had spread to his spine, hip and bladder. He chose not to tell us that he had refused treatment in Florida (perhaps due to cost, perhaps due to misinformation, perhaps due to poor guidance, perhaps by choice not to prolong things). So his 3 children and their spouses and children were in shock as we discovered just how serious his condition is. On July 3 he went to the hospital in extreme pain and 1 week later he refused all treatment and was admitted to an inpatient Hospice program. He has declined steadily over the last 2 weeks. One of us tries to visit him daily (he lost his wife in 2005). I was with him last night and had some very special moments with him. However, he is not very alert and has some symptoms of dementia, probably due to the drugs. It is sad to see him go and we are working through various stages of acceptance with various family members. I am trying to help by organizing visits becasue I am a do-er and a fixer and that is how I am coping. If anyone has any suggestions for helping his daughters cope with losing their dad it would be helpful. They are not coping as well as his son and I are.
Also, any exercises or techniques we can use to process the grief during this time would be appreciated.
Thanks.