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star0422

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  1. I am in total agreement about working all the time. I am fine when I am at work. MY Dad infused the strong work ethic in me. MAybe this is my way of honoring him. When I come home the water works start, I did take some advice from this site and went to my doctor for help. I have been on anti-depressents for 2 weeks now. I am not sure if they are working or not. The only thing I have noticed is I feel like I am being more supportive to my Mom. I am able to comfort her and be strong for her instead of breaking down in front of her. She was quite upset when I told her what the doctor perscribed. She thought it was her fault for her relying on me so much. My response is it is my Honor and Pleasure to support my Mom in anyway I can. This comes from the support I received from them all my life. Hang in there. Starla Star0422@earthlink.net
  2. I so know what you are talking about. I am fine all day but about 9pm every night the water works start. My husband and has been truly understanding but things are different now. The only person I want to hold me is my DAd who is no longer here. Granted the days of sitting on his lap and complaining about his whiskers was over 30 years ago. I do miss my fathers hugs, him yelling at me for driving to fast, saying you are too young to be tired. He was hard of hearing and when I would call home, he would answer the phone and I would always ask to speak to Mom becuase she was the one who could hear better. I wished I would have been more patient. I know my Father was very proud of my accomplishments and loved me so much. I do miss him telling me those things. Take care of yourself and give yourself time. My dad died April 10th and I pay myself a dollar every morning if I do not cry the night before. He would of got a kick out of that. By the way, In 10 days I have only paid myself $3. HAHA
  3. I lost my DAd 2 months ago and grief will come in different stages. Don't try and force her to talk about something that she has not come to terms with. I was very fortunate in that when I was ready to talk my loved ones were there to listen...I hope this helps.
  4. Fathers Day is almost over. I lost my Dad April 10th. My mom and I went to the cemetary today for the first time. I kept her busy and we made bets with each other that instead of crying we would remember a happy thought. If one of us cried we had to pay each other $1.00. We both came out equal becuase when she cried I cried and when I cried she cried. I guess that was not the smartest of things to do. Hang in there everybody I know our DAd as are looking down on us and wondering what all the fuss is about. We did not have to get them a gift they did not like or exchange.
  5. This is cry for help. My Dad passed away April 10th. He went into the hospital for minor stroke and something went terribly wrong and he passed away 1 month later. I have been trying to be there for my Mom and I have a full time career and family. I am fine while I am at work. As soon as I get in my car to drive home everyday the water works start. I cannot focus on anything other then getting up the next morning and going to work. There I am safe from the memories. I am trying to be strong for my Mom, husband and children but there is some type of disconnect going on. I have been waiting on that sign from my dad that everything will be OK like he did when I was a child. I keep waiting and waiting and nothing is happening. I know I am not crazy but it is all getting very overwhelming. Any advice?? Please anything?
  6. That is so beautiful.. I lost my Dad April 10th. I miss him so much.
  7. Thank you so much for the hugs. I lost my Dad April 10th. I still have my Mom thank goodness. Life is just not fair sometime
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