hi debbie, my husband joe died of a stroke july 3rd. it was the most horrifing thing that has ever happened to me. i am having difficult writing this as i get very weak just thinking about it. i spend a lot of time just sitting and reading. i read different grief groups on the net. i went to a grief support group but did nothing but cry so i never went back and no one ever called me to see if i was doing ok.i get waves of grief. sometimes they are big waves were i sit and cry and cry. other waves are little but they still come across me with confusion and sorrow.of all the things i read it says this is normal and there is no other way but to go straight thru this. my daughter tells me of a quote from winston churchhill during WW2 that goes somdthing like this if your going thru hell just keep going to get tto the other side. i dont know whats on the other side of this saddness but i try to tell myself i have no doubt that my life will get better and i just have to keep to that. praying that you find some peace today. sharon
i found this poem i would like to share. "we can shed tears because they are gone or we can smile because they lived. we can close our eyes and pray they come back or, we can open our eyes and see all they left. our hearts can be empty because we don`t see them. or, we can open our eyes and see all they left us. our hearts can be empty b ecause we don`t see them. or, full of the love we shared. we can remember them and only that thier gone. or, we can cherish their memory and let it live on. we can cry and close opur minds, be empty and turn our backs. or, we can do what they would want to smile, open our eyes, love and go on." sharon