Thank you so much for your kind replies. I am so sorry for all of your losses too! I knew God would lead me to a place of comfort if I just looked hard enough.
Dave...you are almost at the same place as me regarding the timing of your loss and I feel the same things you do! So sorry for you! I read your post regarding the holiday music and I will reply to the thread directly but it is driving me crazy too! All I feel is BAAAAAHUMBUG!!!! I have kids so they keep me going but if I didn't I know I would be in bed 24-7. Please take care of yourself.
Mary...so sorry about your husband. Henry was buried the day of his Grandmother's funeral and he lived with her at night for 13 years. Before he passed he had a dream about his Grandmother and mine, they are both deceased, so the timing of it all was planned by God I know. Thanks for giving me hope that I will make it somehow.
Kay...thank you so much for pegging my feelings to the tee. I do feel all of what you described and it is great to know that the depression now is not uncommon. You are also correct, the past 2 years of caregiving were so hard, especially since the cancer was stage IVb at diagnosis, he needed 2 stem cell transplants and we chose to go out of state for them. I had to leave my 3 daughters at home with my inlaws who traveled 1300 miles to my home for 2 3 month periods plus intermittent chemo and imaging. Further complicating the situation I am a nurse which is a double-edged sword because it is nice to know what is going on medically but it's also not a good thing. So we all grieved through each setback and when he passed I felt a sense of peace which of course I felt guilty for. I thought throughout the treatment/dying process I had felt it all but I was wrong. I think I am reaching the anger phase now...didn't think it would happen but I guess it is inevitable. Anyway, enough rambling and thank you.
Nice to meet you and look forward to being here.
Shelley