Hi,
I found this website when I was searching for ways to help a good friend with the loss of her mother. Her mother was in her late 60s when she past away this May. We were expecting her to past away because she had cancer and were fighting it for the past 2 years. Well, my friend is 59 years old and having a tough time dealing with it. It was grieving, but I think it turned in depression. Since June she has been in and out of the hospital 3 times because she wasn't eating. She was found on the floor at her house, so she was rushed to the hospital. Every time she was admitted to the mental hospital because she wasn’t taking care of herself; however, after 3 weeks or so, she was discharge to go home. She has been in and out of the hospital 3 times already.
Things are getting worse for her because she has not been working since June, so her employer just terminated her. She isn’t keeping up with her bills either so her car was repossessed. In addition, her father is 74 years old and has a bad back. He had surgery in June, but his body rejected the hardware, so he isn’t doing well either. With no car, she can’t visit her father nor is she in the mood to get out of the house. She locks herself in the house and I’m not sure what I can do or say to her. I am taking dinner over to her whenever I can and sit in silences with her, but I’m not sure if it’s helping. I suggested getting professional help, but she isn’t open to that right now. She just wants to lock herself in the house. I don’t know what to do because this type of situation makes me uncomfortable. I have never had to comfort anybody with a loss of someone. Please help and guide me, so I can help a friend.
Thanks,
Paul
