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Jewel72

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    November 4, 2011
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    El Paso, TX
  1. Dearest April: On November 4th of this year, my 45 year old brother died. He died alone, and police officials found him almost 4 years after he died. When my family went to go identify him, the medical examiner claimed he died of natural causes and gave a ridiculous explanation for my brother having a a swollen eye and blood flow on one side of his face. It was unfortunate that he died in Mexico, a country that clearly has become dehumanized. So we knew we could not get any justice for his death. There was a woman that had gotten involved with him. She was the one that contacted our family about his death. She claimed that she had already left him two weeks prior,but yet she knew one of our phone numbers. We question how that could be since my brother had his cell phone with him....too many questions unanswered. At least you know who killed your brother...the one that killed mine is roaming free. By no means does this make it any easier. This is the first sibling out of seven of us that I have buried. The holidays do not make it any easier. I am left with two elderly grieving parents and five nieces/nephews that miss their father everyday. I can't sleep...celebrating holidays does not have the same meaning for me. I use to love going to work, but now I resent it...no room for grieving. I think I have gone through all seven phases of grief simultaneously. Hearing people tell you that he is in a better place doesn't make it any better....there are times I am selfish, and I would rather have him here with my family. He lead a difficult and dangerous life...in part I understand that maybe this was best for him. But he did not deserve to be killed. God bless you and your family in your grief. I don't have the answers,and don't pretend to do so. I am still trying to figure all this out myself.
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