Jennis26

I lost my only daughter, Imogene Grace aged 23 months, two years ago. She was my whole world after losing my first 4 babies to miscarriage. I miss her daily, in everything I do, everywhere I go. Don't think it gets any easier. Hope everyone is managing to cope, wearing our 'masks' so as not to make people uncomfortable. Unless you are unfortunate to lose a child, no one can understand the depth of your grief or try and understand that you mourn, ot only the loss of your loved one, but also the future that you will never have x.

I have always felt this way about my therapist. She is okay with it. It helps that she is older than me. She is my "emotional Mom". I have come to realize over the many, many years that I can truly count on her. She is very warm and caring. She accepts me for who I am. Even when I cannot. I carry her with me everyday outside of therapy. She has written positive letters for me to have to let me know that she will not abandon me. I also have a few photos she let me take of her to have when I need something tangible to remember her. My life is so much fuller because she has been such a positive influence on me. She also gives me the best hugs. I feel cared for and loved. My therapist said to me today that my attachment toward her is called Transference. She thinks i am transferring what i don't get from my mom onto her. She said it is normal in therapy to do that. I still wish i could hold her and to feel comfort in her arms. I am scare of asking her for a hug because i don't want to make her feeling upset at me.

Anyone who has experienced the death of a loved one and who has dealt with the pain of that experience by seeing a counselor or working through self-help workbooks will tell you that there are five stages of grief that you go through as you deal with this loss. What you may not know is that we go through some version of these five stages of grief every single time that we feel a loss even if there isn’t a death involved. One type of loss that all of us eventually experience is the loss of a romantic relationship that was very important to us. When we go through that experience, we go through those same stages of grief that we would go through if someone close to us had died. Of course, the way that we process the breakup of a relationship isn’t quite the same as how we would process a death. With a relationship, the other person is still there for us to interact with (at least theoretically; we may not actually be speaking to them). This complicates the traditional grief process because ongoing interaction can change the dynamics of the relationship and cause new patterns in dealing with the loss. Additionally, the possibility of getting back together with our romantic interest creates difficulty with some of the stages of grief. Nevertheless, as we go through the ending of a relationship, we will eventually go through all of those same five stages of grief.