did anyone else have to make final decisions (like where their family member/loved one went to)?
i was my dad's power of attorney, both medical and general, and making some of those decisions were the hardest ones i've ever made. i'm only 22, but have more knowledge in the medical feild than alot of people my age who aren't working in it themselves. the hardest part was to move him from in-patient hospice to a skilled nursing facility for long term care. medically he was very hard to place and alot of places rejected him from everything he needed. i finally found a place which seemed to be a really good fit for his respiratory needs, but that place turned out to be nothing more than a NIGHTMARE! now, i feel guilty for placing him there and not doing more to get him out of there.
he was stable before he moved there nov 1, and after the move things went downhill FAST. he had a "unwitnessed fall" nov 11, and became unresponsive. was moved to the emergency room @ the hospital, and after spending the weekend there was discharged back to the facility (i was told we had no other choice but to send him back), so he went back on the 13th and continued to decline, fast. noone communicated with me or would listen to my concerns until dec 7th when the facility told me we "HE NEEDS TO GO BACK TO HOSPICE". so i got him back to in-patient hospice around 730 that nite, and 948pm on the 8th he passed.
i feel awful, even though i did everything i could and even more than people were liking me to do, but i still feel there was more i could have done for him, or something that would have worked better for placement.