My boyfriend lost his son June of 2010 do to a extreme fall hiking. He had 3 sons this one that passed was his middle son. He won't talk about it to much he brings up some memories but usually he is just quiet. Holidays were really hard on him and I continued asking if he was okay and tried to get him to talk about things and how he feels but he wont he just shut down. Now he says I am pushing him away because I am always asking if he is alright I dont know he totally has changed the way he deals with me and it makes me feel as if there is someone else. He has went to counseling and they told him the last thing he needs to do is find a support group. I encourage that and said yes we need to and he says he needs to I said I need to learn how I can help you cope and deal with things as well. Am I wrong in wanting to help him? Should I back off? I may not ever know the exact feeling he has with the loss of his child but I too am hurting and in pain watching him. He now fears the worst for his other sons as well and I think that is only natural and his grieving period is going to be be a very long bumpy road. Does anyone have any advice for me in how I can help or look for other support groups that can help. Churches? I am willing to try anything to help him.
Thank you...
