Hi: After taking care of my dad for the past two years and keeping with his wishes to die at home, I lost my dad 3 1/2 months ago. I'll just say I have good days and bad days, as so many of you can relate. I have a situation where we are invited to a wedding. It is for my husband's nephew. The mother is my husband's sister. When my dad died, she never came to the wake, funeral or even sent a card. So I get this invitation to the shower for her future daughter-in-law and I r.s.v.p'ed that I would not be coming to that. Now we get the invitation to the wedding. I DON'T want to go. But I feel that I should for my husband's sake. He does not come from a tight-knit family at all. But out of all of his siblings, I was really surprised she did not acknowledge my dad's passing and REALLY hurt. His other family members came to the wake and funeral or at least called. I feel a wedding is a big family event and I should acknowledge it whether I want to or not. That's the way I am. BUT: I was so hurt and angry that she never even acknowledged my dad's passing. So on one hand, I don't want to even acknowledge this shower and wedding because of what she did not do. And on the other hand, with the grieving process I've been going through, I'm only comfortable right now with certain people and places. I've been trying to do what's comfortable for me during this process as was suggested by people at a bereavement group I had been going to. But what is the right thing for attending events during a bereavement period? Does that question make sense? Better yet, do I have to? I want to do the right thing. Thanks, HSMom