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nic

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  • Birthday 09/02/1957

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  1. Hi Lorykelly, I can understand, since my mom left my world in April my oldest cat 15 years old is sick with a few illness and I appreciated each day he is with me. He is my confident and friend. I have inherited my mom's cats(2) (being a lonely child - could not give them to nobody else). It was very difficult to have 3 cats in my apart. and they would not get along...I was discouraged but one night she came to talk to them, because since that night ( I had a dream that night that she came for the cats)and it works! Now the cats gets along. Speak to your mom...if she loved your pet, she may help or take care of him when needed. I now believed ( did not before my mom passed away) that they are there when we need them. My thoughts are with you, I have been often as an unique child loosing my best furry friends but sometimes unexpected....having their life prolonged. take care and will be taking of you and puppy.
  2. Hello Funnyface For me, it has been only 4 months August 16th and I thought I was doing better and I kept going through the house stuff and boxes every weekend. Being a lonely child the task of sorting all is mine. I was getting stronger, thinking as you did, that they are there somewhere...and suddenly yesterday, hit me like a brick wall...it was like an autumn day outside, and I cried, and all became a big mountain I could not climb...but today, I re-started taking one day, nearly one hour at a time. Work is keeping me really busy but still I know my birthday is coming and it will be the first without my mom. But I came here at this site, and again I felt comfort. I am not alone and people here are really feeling the same emotional pains. I think it will happen once in a while, and so is life. As we get older and wiser, and could enjoy life differently, we also do have loss in our lifes that shades our daily life. But I tried to remember that my parents were happy when I was living fully and having a good time. Your parents would have been happy of the wonderful trip you took. And that's the kind of thinking which forces me to keep going with my life and making the dreams my mom could not finish, a reality in my life.
  3. Hello Whiteswan I agree with what you said to your son. If I had a child, would have done the same. I have lost my mom (I am an unique child) April 16th, and I did not see her after but I had dreams...I did not want to believe them but after reading yours.... In my dreams my mom phoned me to offer me a lift from work....she did not drive the last 2 years of her life but she assured me she could. the 2nd dream, (which was fabulous but will not go in detials). she told me she was going for a swim...my mom did not know how to swim. She told me, now, she could. I also did not talk much about this, people relating it to "bad spirit" or me being very afflicted....but some who knew para-psychology said that it could be more. It may be only a coincidence of dreams...but your post really helped me in thinking, that there could be something more. thanks and please share more dreams and I will too.
  4. Happy late Birthday funnyface! Even in grieving I believe in sharing wishes of hope! I do not logged in daily...I will have my birthday on Sept 2nd and I know I will think of my mom a lot. When I was younger I used to travel on my birthday, Europe, USA, etc...when my mom got older, I tried to stay closer to home and sharing it with her. My mom being an unique child as I am, I started understanding the need to celebrate this day with her...received a card from her in snail mail, an email, a gift, a phone call...I was so lucky! My best cousin, is close to me, her too having loss her mom, it's been more than 3 years and she has a daughter. But this discussion group is closer to the time frame of lost that I am living presently. So reading from it really helps! I can see the joy you see in your son..without children, I am the only one carrying their arts, their writings, their thoughts and I think this is motivating me in cleaning the house and going through their personal stuff. They have probably a story to tell and I should be the one telling it. I unfortunately fell sometimes "cranky" (angry) and I know after reading different post, that it is normal. The garden is growing at the house of my parents, now my house. I hope my mom sees, wherever she is, the beautiful lilies, black/green eyes suzans,and the berries! It's a nice heritage, their long hours of work, giving me a peaceful place to stay on weekends and maybe one day to make it my own. N.B. As a gardener, (my mom was one too) lavender has always been a relaxing smell, a healing one. I have lavender in my garden, not much, just a bit, but the smell is so soothing.
  5. thanks Funnyface for your thoughts. It helps me to know that you were also a lonely child and what you have gone through. I am, as you, lucky to have a great partner in life, he loved my mom and we do help each other through those times. Now that both my parents has passed away, I can related to what you are saying "that they lived on in us".... more than ever now, I go through their pictures, their writings, their paintings, and I am building an electronic scrapbook of all things I can scan to my PC. It is hard to do, sometimes I laugh, sometimes I cry, but it does feel as they are part of me. I hope that one day, when I passed away, someone in my distant family or friend will enjoy discovering my life through my stuff. I have no kids but surely somebody will be curious. Your post encouraged me to keep going on my project of memories of my parents and it helps knowing that it will get better.
  6. thanks for the link. I have been reading this site for a while...never posted. I have lost my mom at Easter, this year... lost my father 6 years ago, I am a lonely child, no brother and sister, and I have to deal with life one day at a time, since my mom left this world. Now, since a few days, I can say I am very slowly showing signs of amelioration in coping with daily life but....your Website link made me shed tears, again, though I had read it before, a while ago with no impact...now after my mom's death, I understand the true meaning. When time gets hard, I come to Hospice of the Valley and all your posting help me in coping. Needed to say thanks to all that post on this Website. Reading your experience helps in solitude and moments of sadness.
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