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pkucera8

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  1. I say go for it if that's what you want to do.....why not?
  2. Dear Missing him, I feel your heartbreak / heartache. I lost my husband 3 months ago on the 1st. My situation is different as I have a wonderful family with alot of support. He was sick for almost 2 years in and out of treatments of one type or another. There are times that I still feel like he has gone to work in some other state (normal) for several months and that I will be seeing him any time. I have felt his presence a few times and although I really didn't believe in that stuff, it was very real and comforting. He was also the love of my life. I had so much to do after his death, I didn't have any time really to grieve and maybe that was a good thing for me. Just know that I keep you in my thoughts and after 3 months, it has gotten a tad easier. But we all greive differently. If you can look at pictures, great.....I had to put mine away for awhile.
  3. Hi Kayc, yeah, you're right about alot at one time. I got to the point that I had to laugh because I thought no one would believe it. My best friend told me I should write a book..lol... Yes, I have a great support system. My son has always been my greatest supporter and continues to be. I do want to go back to work, but in the last 3 months I have been helping out with grandkids, to and from school etc. But I have always worked and enjoy it. I will probably go back to caregiving as the job market is still pretty bad. Ihave dealt with Hospice a few times and they have given me some great leads on organizations to follow up with. So, until we talk again....have a great day!
  4. Dear mfh, thank you for the kind words. Yes, there were those moments when I thought everything was going to be ok, especially after the radiation, but that's not the way it went. Naturally I was devistated but Chris did not talk nor did he want to talk about what was going on with him. He told his broher at one point that he just needed to sort it all out in his mind and deal with it. I on the other had couldn't even look at him without sobbing. He dealt with his situation and his death with alot of grace and dignity. Not sure I could do that if it were me.
  5. Craig, thanks for sharing that. So much of the time, we are dealing with our own grief and don't realize what others are going thru or have gone thru. Glad it all worked out for you. We have our memories.
  6. Lina, my dear, my husband passed 3 months ago today. I am not sure how long it has been for you, but I truly understand how you are feeling. I had to put our picture away because it was just too hard to look at and know I wouldn't be able to talk with him and laugh about so many things especially our grandkids. I will say that only you know how you feel. Don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do. No one grieves the same way! You are in my thoughts.
  7. I lost my dear husband Chris on March 1, 2012. His original diagnosis of melanoma was in June 2010. He went through many surgeries to remove the mass on his back and lymph nodes, had a skin graph from his thigh to his back and had injections of interferon (which I understand is typically used for people with hepatitis C) which did no good for melanoma. For someone that was always healthy and did not seek medical attention for any reason, suddenly have to go through all of this was so hard. June of 2011 he started having problems with balance. We found out he had a brain tumor. He went through (I don’t remember how many treatments) radiation which did its job, but then February of 2012, we found out he had 6 plus new brain tumors. Chris lived 3 weeks and 1 day after that diagnosis. My best friend was gone. I really didn’t know how I was going to go on without him. Our lease on the condo was up the end of the same month. I lost my Father less than 6 months before my husband. I was caregiver to both, which I wouldn’t trade for anything. I had/have no job ( we lived on his disability) but I have no benefits until I turn 60. A few years from now. I packed up our lives and put everything in storage, moved in with my son and his family. I really have had no time to grieve because I live in a house with 6 other people so I have no time for myself. Memorial Day weekend, my Son, his family and I drove to Dallas (where Chris was born) so we could spread his ashes. I have learned a lot about myself since all of this began 2 years ago and I suppose that being caregiver to both father and husband has helped me see all of this differently than maybe I would have otherwise. I was holding his hand when he took his last breath. That was really hard. I had to put the picture of us away for awhile, still too new I guess. We only had 29 years together, but I loved him dearly and we had a very good life together.
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