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blujonny

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  • Date of Death
    August 2010
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Trinity Hospice

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    Male
  • Location (city, state)
    Salt Lake City, Utah
  1. Hi Miss Ngu, I just felt I had to say my thoughts go out to you regarding what you're going through right now. I know it must be hard to feel like you take the world on your back sometimes and yet you have no control over what you feel at the same time. Blujonny
  2. I would definitely try to follow any and all possible leads.
  3. Hi, I'm 38 and lost my dad almost 2 years ago. I have been there, panic attacks, extreme anxiety and all and have emerged from it. If you need someone to discuss a part of what you're going through please let me know through the message option. It unnerves me seeing people going through grief alone as I went through it mostly alone and know how straining it can be to feel so alienated and abandoned.
  4. Hi Beth, I lost my dad almost two years ago, he wasn't even 60. I'm almost 38. One thing that stands out is that somehow I feel like I missed out. If you need someone to understand where you're coming from please let me know. Maybe we could message back and forth. Personally I still have things that bother me and I always have time and space to empathize with others going through the same thing.
  5. It seems like your mother was never acknowledged as a child or maybe her expectations of life had been skewed during her upbringing. As for you, you need to be acknowledged too. I don't think facing your mother head on will get you or her anywhere even though it seems like you want closure and reconciliation. If you really do want to connect with your mother I suggest you do it either by mail or email. The hard part is how to get her to interact but the easy part is to call her out on her emotions. I would write her a letter and tell her that she has nowhere to hide because you know that she is angry, bitter, etc - you just don't know why. The more you call her out on her emotions without trying to tell her why you think she's like that and without trying to sympathize with her, in fact being neutral, the more likely it will be that eventually she will probably crack just enough to where she may reveal something that she's holding in, something that triggers all her resentment and judging personality. The worst thing though is to try to reconcile with her in person.
  6. It seems like this is a real emotional battle for you. It must be tiring to have to try to keep running away from that which bothers you and even facing it sometimes.
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