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2boysmom

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  1. Hugs to you today Lina. You are not going insane. At least I hope not because I am right there with you. It has been 4 months for me. I was OK for a week or two and didn't cry much - now it is back and I cried the whole way to work today. It is SOOO hard for the kids but I think it is easier to have them at home than to be by myself right now. I try to keep things "normal" for them and only fall apart once I am alone.Hang in there...you are nt alone.
  2. Leon - so sorry for your loss. I am fairly new to this room too. I lost Terry 2 months ago. The first two weeks was a blur of family and tears. After that I did go back to work and it did help - I was not sitting at home looking at all of his stuff and crying all day. I still cry every day at work but it is less and less every day. My co-workers either hug me and help me through it or run the other way and completely avoid me. Some people just don't know how to deal with it. But getting back to a schedule is helping and keeping my mind off of what happened helps even more. I need to be busy right now so I don't have time to think. It might be helpful for you. Talk to close family or friends - I don't have much family around but my friends have been great. Last weekend I got together with some old friends and laughed more than I have in 2 months. It was just what I needed. This weekend another friend is taking me for a massage and pedicure. At first I said no to everything but changed my mind and was really glad I did. You need to do what is right for you. We understand what you are going through but we don't know how you feel. But you are not alone - there are a lot of us going through the same. <<hugs>>
  3. Queeniemary - <<hugs>> and prayers. Hope the 19th was not too horrible for you. Terry would have been 53 on the 22nd. He has been gone for 2 months now. I have to work so at least my mind will be occupied most of the day. My other plan would be to sit home and cry all day. But my daughter who lives 2 hours away is coming tomorrow to spend a few days with me and the boys. The kids are already planning a movie night for that night. Comedies only. The kids will make sure I do not cry for hours - they will try to keep me entertained. So sorry for everyones pain but glad to have a place to vent....My husband was self-employed. My dad handled all the calls for the first month and then they stopped - until last week when I happened to answer the phone and the guy asked if I could have someone check out his air conditioner. Why do they have to keep asking questions - no I can't recommend anyone and I really don't care if your a/c is not working. I was very rude - but the kids laughed about it and I'm sure he won't ever call back. At least I have my boys with me - they make me laugh every day.
  4. Jan - you are not alone. <<<hugs>>> to you. It has been almost two months for me. I am the same way - some days far more depressed than others. I was away with the kids for three days. When I came home yesterday I walked past my wedding picture that has been on the wall for 26 years and just lost it - I am also realizing this is permanant. I don't know how or when it will get any better either - I am just taking it day by day and trying to get through each one. Last week I attended a loss group with some other widows and I did feel a little better when I left. It does help to talk to someone else who knows how you feel. One thing I learned from the group - there is no time table for how long we will feel this way. Somehow we will learn to go on without them. And we were lucky to have the love that we did - some people never have that their whole lives. So just remember you are not alone. And it has to get better.
  5. It does help talking to others who have been there - no one else can understand the pain. Some days are much better than others. Going to try a local loss group and see if that helps.
  6. I feel the same way. My husband had a heart attack at 52. It has been one month and I sometimes still forget for just a second when I wake up in the morning and the pain hits me again and again. I have two teenage boys and I am desparately trying to keep it together in front of them. Sometimes I can and sometimes I can't. I am back at work and run to the bathroom to cry several times a day. Everone wants to know if I am ok and I say yes. But I feel like I will never be OK again.
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