i'm not sure if i am responding to a specific person or not...this is my first time in an online group discussion..... i lost Laura, my dear wife of 34 years, this past august 3rd... although some days are "better than others" the extreme sadness and my missing and thinking of her mostly every minute of every day has not lessened much if at all... from what i read and hear, we will never rid ourselves of the grief, we will learn to manage it.....the possibility of learning to manage the grief is what gives me hope that there will be "easier" days, months and years in the future...going back to work has helped to a point as i am, for the better of an 8 hr. work day, concentrating on work issues...