Kathy Jo

Carol, I don't know what to say to help you. I lost my sister 1 month ago on Fathers Day. It's strange how little things, like the fact it was fathers day mean so much. I truly am sorry for your loss. I know that I feel that the world is truly "different" than it was before she died. I am aware of her absence so acutely. Her death was sudden. Heart attack we didn't know was coming. My neice, her daughter, found her. They had just returned from a trip to see my husband and I. So much guilt there. I don't know that I could be much help to you, but I too needed to find a site that gave me the opportunity to connect with others who are missing a sibling as I am. You have my deepest sympathies. I agree with the other commenter, rely on your family. Fortunately, I have others in my family who can give me words of encouragement. I never knew it would be like this. So painfull... My best advise so far being that it is so fresh, take the moments to cry. You know the ones that sneak up on us when we least expect it. Not the ones at work of course, but the ones in the tanning bed, or when your significant is asleep. Let it out. And getting back into life, going through the motions has helped me. It gives me purpose and direction. My sister would want that and I am sure your brother would too. Thank you for writing. It helps to know that someone else is there who understands on some level what I am going through. And even though I don't know that my words will help you, I truly don't want them to sound self centered. It's just hard right now to pull away from my own pain. But know that there are people wishing you the best in this horrible time. Good luck to you and my heartfelt sympathy.