My heart can only understand part of your pain. I can't begin to understand how it would feel to lose a child in such a horrific way and for him to be an only child.
I too have lost a child. My youngest son died in a tragic car accident. He was 18 at the time and a passenger of a car. They were doing everything right, his friend just made a driver error and lost control going into the path of a SUV and they both died instantly. For me a great sadness is that I was unable to see my son again until he was at the funeral home. He was not taken to the hospital but to the morgue, my heart is sad that I didn't get to see him at the time of the accident to say my goodbye and to hold him.
I understand the feeling of your heart being forever broken, for me I feel there is nothing that will fill the hole that is left in my heart. Through much counselling with a trauma/grief counsellor I am learning to walk through this emptiness instead of trying to run, that is difficult. I am learning to carry the memory of my son Jonathan with me in this new life that has been thrown at me. I have held onto the hope of my counsellor for the times that I did not feel hope. This sounds a little easy in words but as you know this journey is a difficult one.
I find that strength comes even if I don't want it. I have learned to notice the "magic moments" as I call them, moments like a bird bathing in a puddle, the sunset or the sound of running water in the outdoors.
It helps me to talk to people who understand. I am new to this forum and new to chatting with people who understand, I hope that this experience will be helpful to me and I wish the same for you.
from someone who walks a journey similar to yours