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  1. Hi Kacy- I am very sorry for your loss. I know nothing I can say will fix things but I just wanted you to know there are compassionate vets out there. The night I had to make the decision to say goodbye to my beautiful Kylie, my vet came to the animal hospital to be with us. She stayed for nearly two hours and helped me through the most painful decision I have ever been forced to make. I don't know how I could have gotten through it without her there, comforting both Kylie and me. I will never forget her kindness that night.
  2. I posted this elsewhere last December... I went out this morning to get some treats for the dogs for their Christmas presents and was sitting at a stoplight. Across the intersection on the other side of the street, I saw what I first thought was a bird taking off. But it wasn't. It was a cat that had been hit by a car. His legs were flailing but he wasn't getting up. A number of cars drove past him without stopping so when the light changed, I got myself turned around and came back because I couldn't just leave him there. Unfortunately, by the time I got to him, he was no longer moving and I think he was dead. I picked him up in a towel and took him to a vet which was a few blocks away. I told them what had happened and could they look after him and asked if there was anything I could do. To their credit, they told me no, and that they would take care of things. I can't even imagine the pain that poor cat was in, laying there in the street all alone. And now, it's Christmas Eve and some family somewhere is going to be looking for their kitty, and he won't be coming home. It is so hard, seeing these innocent creatures suffering and dying for what appears to be no reason at all.
  3. I don't know that anyone but you (and your family) can decide when it's time to think about getting another dog. When I lost Kylie, I didn't think I'd ever be able to bring another dog home but a couple of months later, after seeing Gracie's picture on a rescue group's facebook page, I knew it was the right time for me. A month later, Gracie came to stay with me- at first as a foster, and then when I adopted her, for good. When it's time, you'll know. To be honest, the image below was on the facebook page a litle bit before the post about Gracie, and it had a lot to do with my decision. Best of wishes to you and your family, whatever you choose to do.
  4. I lost my beautiful Kylie two years ago. Soon after, I made plaster casts of her footprints in the dried mud in the backyard, and her collar is still laying on the kitchen table. I don't know what I'm going to do with either, but I understand the importance of these kinds of things. I am so sorry for your loss.
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    Kylie

    Kylie was cremated. They did that there, and returned it to me with her ashes. I had no idea they'd do it, and I can't even tell you how thoughtful it was that they did.
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    Kylie

    Two years ago tonight, my pretty girl and I had to say goodbye. Kylie, I miss you and I love you.
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    Heartbroken

    Smb- I wish I knew of something to say that would help ease your grief, but I'm afraid I don't. I am so sorry for your loss.
  8. Craig- Thinking about getting another dog, I know is a tough thing. I was in the same place not that long ago and didn't think I could do it. Turns out, I could, but that's just me- everybody has to make that decision for themselves and not based on what other people think or say. I started a thread about my experiences here in this forum when I lost my beautiful Kylie. I will be forever grateful for the dogs I now have in my life (Mason and Gracie), but there isn't a day that goes by, that I don't find myself missing Kylie with all my heart. What gave me the courage to bring another dog into my life was the off-chance of seeing this posted on a message board.
  9. Nobody can tell you when it's time. You do what you have to, because you know in your heart it's the right thing to do, even if it doesn't seem like it now. I'm so sorry for your loss.
  10. This is not an easy post to write and it doesn't have a happy ending, so be forewarned. I went out this morning to get some treats for the dogs for their Christmas presents and was sitting at a stoplight. Across the intersection on the other side of the street, I saw what I first thought was a bird taking off. But it wasn't. It was a cat that had been hit by a car. His legs were flailing but he wasn't getting up. A number of cars drove past him without stopping so when the li...ght changed, I got myself turned around and came back because I couldn't just leave him there. Unfortunately, by the time I got to him, he was no longer moving and I think he was dead. I picked him up in a towel and took him to the vet at Alta Vista, which was a few blocks away. I told them what had happened and could they look after him and asked if there was anything I could do. To their credit, they told me no, and that they would take care of things. I can't even imagine the pain that poor cat was in, laying there in the street all alone. And now, it's Christmas Eve and some family somewhere is going to be looking for their kitty, and he won't be coming home. I debated whether or not to write about this but decided if it encouraged even one person to be more watchful of their pets, it would be worth it. Please make sure your pups and kitties are safe- they are depending on you.
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    Kylie

    One year and seven months ago, I lost my beautiful Kylie. Last night, she was in a dream- the first time that's ever happened. I was coming home from- well, a long trip or something, I don't know. When I got to the front gate, Mason and Gracie ran up to greet me. They were barking and jumping up to say "Hi" and I knelt down to give them hugs and kisses. While I was scratching their ears and rubbing their bellies, I looked up on the porch and Kylie was laying there, contentedly watching us. I didn't go to her, but instead, kept playing with Mason and Gracie. After a while, they settled down and wandered off to sniff in the yard for whatever it is dogs find so interesting. When I looked back to the porch, Kylie had gotten up and and had come down into the yard. She walked over to where I was sitting in the grass, laid down beside me and rested her head in my lap. And then I woke up. I didn't think the pain of losing her would ever be so intense after all this time, but it was/is. I miss my pretty girl so much.
  12. When I lost my sweet Kylie, I thought I'd never get another dog. But eventually, I did and I am so glad I made that decision. Whatever you decide, you should to do it because it's what you want to do. You will know if/when it's time. Making a choice like this based on what other people think is a mistake, if you ask me.
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    Kylie

    It's been a year and a half now, and I still miss Kylie so much it breaks my heart all over again every time I think of her. I wish it didn't hurt so much to be reminded that she's gone and that the memories could start to at least sometimes be happier ones, but not yet, I guess. It seems like a never ending journey. I love you, my pretty girl- I always will.
  14. Mary, I am so sorry to hear about Bentley's medical issues. Wishing you all the best.
  15. I don't think there are answers for some things. They just happen and all you can do is try to get by as best you can.
  16. Saying goodbye to my pretty girl a year and a half ago was the hardest decision I have ever been faced with. I think about her every day and miss her more than words can say. I don't think there is any way to prepare for making that decision and when the time comes, you make it because you know in your heart it's the right one. Cole loves you and knows that, more than anything, you want him to be happy with no more pain or suffering. I know it's not easy to do, but try not to beat yourself up too badly over doing the best you could for him. I am so sorry for your loss.
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    Kylie

    Thank you, Mary- Kylie was such a beautiful dog. After all this time, the realization that she's gone is still heartbreaking. I wish we could have had more time together but I guess there never is enough, is there? More than anything, I regret not giving her more hugs and kisses for all the love and devotion she showed me. I miss my friend.
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    Kylie

    One year, three months and one day ago, Kylie and I had to say goodbye. That's one day longer than the time we had together. I would never have expected losing her would have hurt as badly as it has and for as long, but I miss my pretty girl so much more than I can say. Kylie, I love you.
  19. I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something more to say that would make things easier, but I don't think there is. "I'm curious what people think about getting a new pet right away?" The only person whose answer matters is yours. You don't need to justify your decision (whatever it should be) to anybody. Do what you think is right.
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    Kylie

    Mary- I have never lost a spouse so I'm not qualified to even imagine what that's like. Losing my parents was awfully difficult, even though both were in poor health and it was clear what direction things were going there. That said, I was not even remotely prepared for how losing Kylie would affect me. It has been far harder to handle than I would have ever thought. I think about her every day. My two dogs, Mason and Gracie, are wonderful companions and I am grateful to have them here with me, yet I still miss Kylie terribly and can't help but think that our time together was far too short. I wish, just once more, that I could hold my pretty girl in my arms and tell her again how much I love her. I have been giving Mason and Gracie all the hugs and kisses they can probably stand, but it's not enough sometimes, I'm afraid. Here are the doggies on our SoCal trip a couple of weeks ago.
  21. Kylie liked to lay on the couch but was having a hard time jumping up so I took the cushions off and stacked them in the corner. It was about six months after I lost her that I could bring myself to put them back (well, actually I didn't do it on my own- my vet was here to see my other dog and did it for me at my request). Kylie's collar is still on the table where I set it down after saying goodbye to her over a year ago. I don't think anyone can tell you what to do. You just have to do what's right for you.
  22. Nobody can tell you what to do in this situation but on the plus side, you will know when you're ready. I wasn't ready to adopt another dog after losing my pretty girl until I was, and the realization was as clear as a bell when it came. This is how it happened for me... http://www.griefhealingdiscussiongroups.com/index.php?/topic/7820-annie-1-and-annie-2/page-2?hl=testament#entry71916 There was no doubt whatsoever in my mind that getting another dog was what I needed to do, even though I was sure I wasn't ready just a short time before. Do what you know in your heart you have to do. Whatever you decide, it will be the right decision for you, and that's all that matters.
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    Kylie

    Thanks, Mary. There's no doubt about the walking through pain part. I know nothing will bring Kylie home to me, but I keep hoping the day will come when my heart doesn't break all over again every time I find myself thinking of her. I miss her so.
  24. mik- I have written in another thread about my dog Kylie, so I won't bore you with the details here but I can tell you that even after a year, there are times that catch me off guard and the pain of the loss of my pretty girl is as fresh as the day we had to say goodbye. I don't know that I expect to see light at the end of this tunnel anytime soon.
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    Kylie

    Mary, thank you for your kind words. I do check in on the posts here regularly and have read a lot (by now, most, I think) of the articles linked to, but it is still so hard. I wish I had the same beliefs as many of you here as I think it would help, but this is not something that comes at the flip of a switch. I am comforted by the companionship of the two dogs I have here with me now- Mason and Gracie. It's not the same as having Kylie by my side, but I love them both so very much, each in their own way. Again, thanks.
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