It's almost approaching 9 months of him being gone. It is just so surreal.
It pains me so much to see what she is going through and I feel so utterly helpless. Her mom cancelled her vacation that she was looking forward to (and took time off of work for) two days before she was supposed to leave. She was so devastated. She told me that the week she spent at home was absolutely miserable because her mom was "blaming (her) for everything" and complaining the whole time. She's been going downhill ever since. Her mom told her that "when one spouse dies, the other usually dies soon afterwards." This got me extremely concerned. I tried in the best way to suggest she speak with her mom about speaking to someone, but was told that it is none of my business (in a very angry, harsh tone). She constantly tells me that her mom is not giving her a rest and is constantly freaking out on her. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. She told me that she can't deal with taking care of her mom, going to work, and having a relationship.
I've tried to do some things that have been suggested. I've told her that I am here to be a listening ear, but she says that she doesn't want to talk to anyone. She's also been telling me that she is angry all the time. I told her that there is nothing wrong with being angry.
I just feel so incredibly horrible for her. Every day I wish there was something that I could do that would help her. It's just so unfair for her what she is dealing with.
Thanks for being a listening ear everyone.