songbird7812

Thank you so much for the condolences and advice! The article is very good. It's funny how some of my friends rally around me and some seem to disappear. I find that "Let me know if you need anything" is a nice thought, but I am highly unlikely to call those people and ask for whatever. It would be more helpful for them to show up at my house and say, "OK, I am here. What can I do to help you right now? Let me wash these dishes, help you sort through your mom's stuff, run to the store, watch a movie with you, play a game, just listen...." Now that would be helpful. At least this will help me know how to help others later on. I am taking your advice and waiting a bit before going to the support group. My gut is saying "Wait" and you all are confirming that for me. Today I did two things to help myself. I called the doctor's office and they prescribed something for me to take at night for anxiety. I cannot live on no sleep. I also called my counselor (I already had one for other issues) and asked if there were any openings today, and they had just got a cancellation, so I am going in about an hour. I was there earlier in the week, but spent the time relaying what had happened and had little time for actual counseling. And I have been having thoughts that scare me a bit, so this is necessary. It is so hard to admit I need help. So I am proud of myself. I miss Mama every moment, so I am blessed to have had a mom that I loved to spend time with so much. Thanks to all of you.

Hi, I am new to this group. I have lived with my mother the past six years and took care of her. She passed away August 4, less than a week after my brother-in-law's funeral. I have always been extremely close to my mom; as one woman told me at church, she was my soulmate. Now that she is gone, I of course miss her terribly. She was my life. Is it a normal thing that I now have panic attacks? It has been happening to me every evening. I get very little sleep due to the anxiety. During the day, I seem to handle things better. There is a new grief support group at my church. I would like to go, but I am afraid that if I get started thinking about things before bedtime, my panic attacks may get even worse. I tend to take on everyone else's problems also, so that might be too much for me right now. Has anyone else experienced problems with this? I am going to have many decisions to make and I know this is weighing on me. But I am not in a good position to make those decisions right now. Thank you for listening.