thank you for your kind responses. we got thru the day ok and it was quite positive as we had to do a mad dash to Lincolnshire, UK as my friends daughter went into labour and she needed to get there. New life on dads anniversary felt like a positive thing - but now my friend at work who has been a bit like a father figure since ad died was rushed into hospital with a suspected stroke so please hold him in your prayers tonight. I wish you all peace Kimx