Myfathersgirl

I feel like I am losing it and was wondering if others have had something similiar happen so I know I don't need to check myself into a mental hospital. I was playing around with Grandma's ring and all of a sudden I noticed that when it is at just the right angle you can see what looks like a handwritten note actually inside the stone. If it was on the band I'd think okay, maybe it's just an engraving but they wouldn't have an engraving in the middle of a stone. Too bad I can't read what it says so I don't know if it might not be a message that Grandma is trying to send me. I tried with a magnifying glass and it is still too small to read.

Thanks Marty. I meant to ask how long before you quit forgetting that your loved one has died. You have a good point about that DNA being part of me. Dad got half of his genes from her and I got half of mine from him. I wasn't actively suicidal knowing that she was close to death but part of me didn't care if something happened to me because I'd just be with Grandma again a lot sooner than I thought. Like a friend of mine said though think of what she'd say to me. She'd want me to have a full life before we were reunited. 36 isn't a short life but it's nowhere near the 88 years that Grandma lived. I can continue her legacy to future generations starting with my nephews and niece. I probably won't do a very good job of that over the next weeks but I know it gets easier with time.

Is it common to keep an object from you loved one in your pocket and hold on to it because there are skin cells and DNA on it so it's still a piece of them with you or is that a form of denial becaue you aren't letting them go? My grandma was on a ventilator and we knew on Friday we were close to losing her and I slept that night holding the ring that she had given me. She died yesterday afternoon. You'd think it would get easier since I'e experienced this before with my other five grandparents. Maybe the fact that she was lhe last grandparent I had left makes it even harder to let got because that means admitting that that entire generation is gone.

I'm sorry for your loss too. We knew it was coming with my Grandma and that didn't help much. I can't imagine losing a parent in that way. It is hard at any time tut to not hae any warning probably makes it harder. Give yourself time. My mom has lost both of her parents already and she told my Dad that it takes about six months before you start to feel normal again and een after that there will still be some bad days mixed in with the good ones.

Hi guys despite the typoAs the title says, I lost my Grandma yesterday. It has been just about 24 hours since we got the call from my uncle. She was on a ventilator and the doctors said there was no hope of recovery so we knew it was coming which I thought would make it a little easier because I could prepare a little bit and send her a goodbye letter since I couldn't be there beings she was in the southeast and I'm clear up in the northwest. They turned off the machines about 3:00 their time and she died about an hour later. I almost wonder if I cried so much yesterday there isn't anything left because today my eyes feel pretty dry. I have a ring of hers in my picket that I will be carrying around with me for awhile. I know that since she wore it there is a piece of her still on the ring (skin cells and DNA) so it's like she is still with me. I woke up this morning wondering how she was doing thinking she was still in the hospital then it dawned on me, she's not there anymore, she's dead. How long does it take before you forget that they are really gone? I',m going to a grief support group near me tomorrow. Mom was like why there is no grieg she is in a better place. I told her I know that but it doesn't mean that I'm not going to miss her and I hae to adjust to the fact that I'm not going to see her for probably some 40 to 50 years which is a long time to go without seeing a Grandma that you had so many good times with. Here's a picture of her with her brother who died 10 years ago. I bet he was right there to give her a big hug, welcome her to paradise, and show her around.