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  1. Kay, I thought the insurance companies were required by law to notify you in the Fall about any changes. I know we always receive a letter stating any changes. It's hard enough wading thru all of this stuff without them then changing things up again. What a mess!
  2. Gwen, I understand. It's hard enough to make decisions without the added stress of it being close to a date filled with so many memories. If you're happy with Premera, I would ask them about a medigap plan to help cover the 20% that the rest doesn't cover and also about the prescription plan.
  3. Gwen, Ask about Plan G or Plan N. The plans are all the same no matter which insurance co you go with, but the cost will be different and the yearly increases will be different. I don't think all plans are available everywhere. If you go to Medicare.gov and put in your zip code and age, it will show what plans are available. If you click on "compare to other plans" in one of the plan descriptions, it will bring up a chart that shows the different plans and what they cover. That way you can see what each plans covers. My husband had Plan F, which covered everything but is the most ex
  4. Most doctors in our area accept Medicare, so that's one reason why we choose the original plan as opposed to an Advantage plan. Which plan you choose for your supplement really makes a big difference. Of course, the better the plan the higher the cost. Since my husband went to the doctor a lot, we choose Plan F for him and they basically paid for everything. Even with all of the MRIs and CT scans and even chemo treatments, we paid nothing. His premium was around $200 a month though. I know some of the Advantage plans have zero premium. Most of the original Medicare plans don't incl
  5. Gwen, I don't post here often but I wanted to ask if you were aware that there is help available in each state to help with choosing the best Medicare plan for you. I know you mentioned meeting with someone but wanted to post this in case you weren't aware. If I remember right, you mentioned you live in Washington. They should offer some help in choosing either the original Medicare plan or an Advantage plan. Also, they should be able to advise on choosing a prescription plan, if you don't go with an Advantage plan. What I was told is that it's better to go with the original Medicare
  6. Gwen, I'm so sorry. I hope you and Ally are both doing better this evening. As if the nights are bad enough - now something to make them even worse. I hope the meds help her and you both get a good night's sleep. And this on top of the anniversary date, I'm sure, was very difficult. Hugs to you... Mary
  7. Kay, What a pain to have to deal with ins stuff, especially a mess from a few years ago. I find I don't have much patience for things like that anymore. I wonder if the Dept of Insurance in your state could help. Seems like they're not making it easy to get it straightened out.
  8. Gwen and Marj, you are both in my prayers. I hope that things start to go better soon. It's so hard to deal with these things without our husbands. Will be thinking of you both. MLG, I don't really understand all of the breathing/oxygen issues when someone has copd, but I know that turning up the oxygen isn't always a good idea. What I don't understand is why the drs and nurses don't seem to know that. Before my husband passed away, they kept turning it up and when I questioned the fact that his 02 level was at 100% and wasn't that a concern for someone with copd, they said no, it wa
  9. So, he had bitten before? I wondered about that, but thought the owner would have at least told you beforehand. That was really irresponsible on her part. If I had a dog that had a bite history, I think I would keep him pretty close to home and not put him in a position to possibly injure someone else. Hope you're doing okay. Mary
  10. I've been a dog lover all of my life too and as I've gotten older, I find I'm a little leery of a lot of dogs - even ones that don't appear to be aggressive. Guess I've heard too many stories about incidents like this.
  11. Oh Kay, I'm so sorry. I hope you're okay. I thought it was wonderful that you were able to spend time with him and how great it was that he had someone to walk him. I can see where you wouldn't be able to trust him again. It's so hard to know why animals do things sometimes. I'm sorry for both of you.
  12. Sometimes the rescues have volunteers closer to you that can do a home visit. Or they network with other rescues. When I adopted one of my setters from a national ES rescue, they had a volunteer from Brittany Spaniel rescue do the home visit because she lived nearby.
  13. Have you tried rescueme.org? Some of these writeups state they are calmer: http://husky.rescueme.org/Oregon#all1 Of course, "calmer" might mean calmer for a husky. My English Setters are active and they're 9 and 10. I know I'll probably not have another setter when they're gone - unless it's a very calm one, which is kind of rare. As for the pit bulls, I have nothing against them, but I do the people that continue to breed them. It is a major problem when so many shelters are full of them. Also, I would try to find a rescue group (not a shelter or humane society) to a
  14. Kay, Have you looked on Petfinder to find rescues closer to you? I think they still list shelters and rescues by area. If you could find a dog you're interested in that is living in a foster home, you'd be able to find out if he/she is good with cats and get answers to most other questions you might have. I know around here, most of our shelters are full of pit bulls also. It's pretty sad.
  15. I really understand people not calling because that can be kind of awkward, and I'm sure they don't know what to say. I'm really okay with that. Don't want to be asked to go to lunch anyway, because I just don't feel like it at this point. But to not even send an email to just say hi and ask how I'm doing? Or even send a card in the mail? That I don't understand.
  16. Kay, Yes, they were all 4 Cavaliers. I knew before adopting them about the heart problems, but didn't realize how quickly it would take them and how young they would be when we lost them. We had two dogs before them - one with kidney disease and one who was diabetic. We managed their diseases for quite a few years. So, that's what I was expecting with the heart issues. When you said about Arlie being attacked by other dogs and not fighting back, that's pretty much the way they were. So gentle and sweet. Made their suffering even harder to accept. I know what you mean about
  17. Jackie, I so understand everything you are saying. I started really questioning my faith when we lost one of our dogs 5 years ago. She was only 7, and we had only had her for two years. We loved her dearly. We knew the breed had heart issues but never expected to lose her at such a young age. She died in my husbands arms. The following year, we lost two others - both to heart disease. One died in my arms on the way to the ER. The other died in our home after bringing her back from the ER. A year later, we lost the last of the original 4 that we had adopted of that breed. And now
  18. Kay, It's so hard when we've put everything we have into caring for someone, and then they are gone. I've spent hours and hours researching whatever disease or illness my husband had or my dogs had. And then when they passed away, I didn't know what to do with myself. Our lives revolved around them, and now there is nothing for us to do. There is no purpose any more. Somehow, I guess we need to find something to fill that void, but I'm not sure how to do that. Nothing else seems important. In time, you will bring another dog into your life. I think you're like me - you need a
  19. Jackie, it's too bad that we are all so far away from each other because I think the support would be wonderful for all of us if we were closer. Even though each of our circumstances is different, there is that (unfortunate) common bond among us. Is there someone back home that could help in finding a new place? Maybe look at them for you so they could narrow it down to a few for you to look at? Or contacting a realtor in the area you are thinking of relocating to would be a start. Moving is always such a stressful ordeal, but at least you would then be in a spot where you want to liv
  20. I'm so sorry, Kay. While we animals lovers care so deeply for our pets, every once in a while one comes along that is just a little more special. I know that for you that was Arlie. RIP sweet boy. You were so loved. Mary
  21. Some days, it all just seems so unreal. Did it all really happen? It's like a never ending bad dream. I can't begin to look to the future because I feel like there is no future. I have family and friends, but it's not the same. We did everything together, so even going to the store is difficult. I have to push myself to do even that. Thankfully, my son is home every other week for a few days and that gets me moving, at least while he's here. On other days, I probably wouldn't move at all if I didn't have to take care of the dogs. I wonder, too, about staying in this house. I'll s
  22. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. Mary
  23. Jackie, I can so relate to everything you are saying. I lost my husband in March, one month shy of our 46th wedding anniversary. I feel like my life has no purpose anymore. There is no direction in my life now. Just one day after another. You're so right that we take our lives for granted. Even the smallest things like planning what we're going to do for the day. Now, there is no one to do that with. I, too, have lost 4 of my dogs that I loved dearly. In 5 years, I lost them all and then lost my husband. We have had many dogs over the years and we loved them all, but these 4
  24. Have you tried something cold - like yogurt? I remember even trying a plate instead of my dog's regular dish. For some reason, sometimes something new entices them to eat. Keeping you both in my prayers.
  25. I'm glad you have your son to help. I'll be in a similar situation at some point with mine, and I'm grateful that I can count on my one son to be there with me since he's the only one that really knows my dogs, too. There is comfort in having a special spot for them nearby. Even though most of mine were cremated, i made a little area in memory of them in the yard with engraved stones for each of my girls. It's hard to plant flowers there because of tree roots, so I put a few baskets of flowers there every Spring. Wishing you peace thru the coming days.
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