Background - My husband lost his father at 19 from cancer. He didn't deal with it very well, went off the rails. 2 months ago after a long battle we lost his mum to cancer. He is now 36. We were all there around her. He is an only child. He was very close to his mum.
He hasn't spoken about her death at all. He says he still thinks she is there and can't even 'go there'. I know he has had suicidal thoughts. He has regular nightmares. I've told him I'm here for him when he is ready to talk about things. I have called up a grief counsellor and he sees her once a fortnight. He is very withdrawn, sad, pushes me away, argumentative, on edge.
To me it feels like I'm losing him. We argue, which we never have before. I feel like he doesn't want to be here anymore. I'm there for him and understand why these things are happening. Of course his mums died. But my heart is breaking with worry for us and for him. And of course the children. The last thing I want is for us to break down to. I'm trying to stand by him, but feel he is pushing me away.
Does anyone have any reassuring words. Or have experience or advice. Thanks in advance. :-)
