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praised74

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  • Date of Death
    july 27, 2013
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    na

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    chicago, illinois
  1. I am so sorry for your loss. On my husband's birthday, my daughter and grandson who both took off from work took me to the movies and out to lunch to celebrate his birthday. We went to see Last Vegas and we laughed enjoyed being together. So on those "Firsts", I try to plan something that will celebrate him. On Father's day I went to see a play and my daughter took me to lunch. Make those "Firsts" special.
  2. I am at one year and 2 weeks. I also feel as though I just lost him. In addition my mind was playing tricks and I thought I was experiencing some of the same symptoms he had with his lung cancer. I went to the doctor, he did a chest x ray, it was abnormal. They did a cat scan and it was negative for lung cancer, but discovered a cyst on my liver, so on the 15th I have to have ultrasound. I don't cry as much, but I am so sad.
  3. It has been one year and two weeks since my husband passed away. The anger I felt early on has subsided and I am not as angry. I still feel some bitterness toward his ex wife and his children, when I allow myself to think about how they mistreated him. We were married almost thirty years, together 36 years. I can count the times on one hand when they sent a card for his birthday, Father's day or Christmas. They wanted to love him on their terms. The ex wife was the mastermind, because she always felt he belong to her. She married two times after him and went back to his name. Within days after the funeral, she was at social security applying. There was never a relation with his children. I was the woman their father married. I have children who are very good to me and was also to him. That is where his gifts came from. What has helped me heal is that I have not seen or talked to them since the funeral on August 5, 2013. I have had so much peace. The one who kept us connected is gone and that was the extent of our socialization with each other. My husband loved his children and was always trying to please them and they manipulated every opportunity to use him. I know they miss him, if only for the money and the co-signing. The Surgeon who botched his surgery for the Lung Cancer. He performed the surgery and had not read the MRI. He confessed to us in his follow up visit how distressed he was and said "If he had read the report, he would not have done the surgery. But I bet he didn't refused the money he received for doing the surgery. I am praying for release as it is all over.
  4. Saturday, July 27, 2013 my husband passed away from Lung Cancer. We were married almost thirty years, together 36 years. It has been short in terms of the time, but very a very long grieving process. God has truly blessed in so many ways. He allowed me to be me. He never refused me or my children anything. He was my second husband, but my first love, and I am so grateful that my husband is not suffering. No more chemo, radiation and medication. He has a brand new body and is rejoicing in Heaven where he is celebrating his first birthday with the King of Kings. I am sharing this words that encouraged me, and I Hope you are encouraged also. Weaved into the pains of losing you, there are threads of hope and beautiful memories. I can no longer see you with my eyes, touch you with my hands, but I will feel you in my heart, FOREVER! Grief is a Tunnel to Growth!
  5. Blessings to you. My prayer is that you will find the comfort, strength and the peace to walk this path without your beloved. My husband passed away 10 months ago and I was up nights because I couldn't sleep. I went online and it was a blessing to me. I joined a support group which has helped also. There are books I have read and am reading, "How to go on living when someone you love dies, Reflections of a grieving spouse, Happily even after." My most important books has been the Bible and my devotionals which I read every morning. I hope that you will not rush this grieving process. I will continue to pray for you and for all of us as we start a new chapter in our lives.
  6. I am sorry for your loss. I am praying that you will be strengthened, comforted and that you will find peace that surpasses all understanding. It has been 10 months since my husband passed away from Lung Cancer. Please don't rush the grieving. I thought if I stayed busy, the grief would disappear. I ended up in the hospital the Friday after Thanksgiving and was diagnosed with a mini heart attack. While in the hospital I did a lot of thinking and came to the conclusion that I could not rush grief. It is a process that we all must go through. It has been traumatic but believe me it does get better. I have read four books on Grieving and I attend a grief support group. It has helped me. My main source has been praying, my devotionals and my bible. I needed all the help I could to get through this and remain sane.
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