Hi
I've come to this site to see what others have to say about my situation. My boyfriend of almost 3 years had future plans with me and all. We were house shopping and talking rings, marriage,family etc. We just had gone away together too. He had a old dog that was putting a lot of pressure on him along with living back at home with parents who pestered him about it all the time, even on vacation. So he had come home from a 4 hour drive for work and had to take the dog in to the vet. He wouldn't really say what was going on with her when I asked. He said that he didn't want to talk about it and then said but basically the vet said he didn't to make a decision within the next couple of weeks. With that on his mind Saturday night and knowing he had to leave Monday morning for a 4 hour drive for a week of work training. So he put decided on Sunday he was going to put her down on Monday.. He sent me one last next on that and then shut down. Never responded to any of my text or calls and then emailed me while at training that Friday and said he loved and cared for me and all but was tried of pushing me forward and he also mentioned he had amazing job opportunities in front of him (in which I didn't know about) he said I know you wont take the leap with me so I have to do what's best for me. (Never even asking me about going or anything, just assumed)also saying this wasn't what he wanted but was going to break up with me.. Never saying anything about the dog just saying he had a emotional roller coaster week so much so he had to shut off his personal cell phone! So he never spoke to me or replied to my emails.. I noticed when he sent one other email he wasn't himself, seemed angry, wasn't writing like his normal self. Its been about 5 weeks now and I haven't heard from him at all. The email was sent about 4 weeks ago. Weeks before all this his mom had said she was worried about him and how he would be once the dog passes. The whole family, friends have not returned calls or talked about anything to me. I feel like they are hiding the fact that he could be depressed and having a emotional break down of some sort. Losing his dog that he loved more than me, he knew I didn't like her for many reasons,then he took a job offer right away which he normal would sleep on it first since it involves moving to another state away from family and friends,he also had job training on his mind and then to top it off he broke up with me with no signs.. We love each other very much from day one we connected so well. His family and friends loved me and so did my family. It was a different kind of love something thats hard to find now a days I don't know what to think but I'm so hurt and depressed over it. I know he is going through a lot but I felt that he would turn to me in such a difficult time even though I didn't care for the dog due to her peeing and pooping all over the house, I couldn't sleep at night since she was in the bedroom for the longest time until one day he finally kicked her out but wasn't happy about it, was times where I would drive down there (over an hour) to see him and he would be laying on the floor with his dog while I'm sitting on the couch all alone, just a poorly trained dog who begged all day long and wanted attention at all times. Sorry I love animals but humans should come first.
