Just yesterday I lost my dear Chopper. I had him for 12 years. It hurts deeply and there are moments I can't control my crying. My son is also taking it very hard. My husband (son's step dad) told us today we needed to move on. I understand, but I still feel I need to grieve. I don't think he understands that that is something I need. We are very different in that area. His father died almost a year ago, and I have yet to see him grieve.