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emilylafay

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  • Date of Death
    09/29/14
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    Female
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    Orange, CA
  1. I am so sorry to hear your story kayc. The way these furry members of our families touch our lives is so incredible and the impact they have is everlasting so I hope you can take comfort in the love you showed your puppy. I also hope you have forgiven yourself!
  2. He was definitely loved and spoiled and we have many great times with him. I believe he only ever knew happiness as well!
  3. Thank you Spyro for that insight. Our Casper was a grey cat too and so beautiful. We thought briefly about getting a new kitten, but those same fears about hurting that one too and or not being able to love it as much and the guilt are all there, but it is good to hear how well it has helped you and your family. I hope you and your family are healing and that your guilt and flashback cease soon. I worry that my boyfriend will always be haunted by this so I hope that is not the case, but your story does give me hope that he will be able to heal so thank you so much for sharing!!
  4. Thank you for the kind words. It was incredibly cathartic for me to just be able to write down what happened and also comforting to know that these types of accidents have happened to others. I think we just feels so guilty about it and can't see that while it is no doubt a horrific accident, it has happened to other people. That's why I wrote in this board because Spyro's story is so similar to mine so I know their loss and pain. I was able to get there after it happened and we all, including his roommate, cried and grieved that evening. I just hate that I can't stop picturing what I envision happened, and how horrible it must have been. Then how I won't see his cuteness again, but I know that cats especially are curious and if we stop paying attention to them for one second they can do something too fast that can end in tragedy. I hope he can forgive himself too, we are beginning to work on that!
  5. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I do understand exactly how you feel at this moment. Yesterday my boyfriend accidentally killed his 7 month old cat. That cat was family to me. I was there the day they brought him home. We named him Casper and he was the most perfect cat for us. Just so calm, energetic what he was excited, loving and beautiful. I got a call last night around 7:45 pm and my boyfriend was hysterical. Casper was an indoor cat, 100% indoor and we were getting ready to get him neutered because he was starting to get really aggressive and play time turned more wild. Well I guess he was being aggressive and knocking things over at my boyfriends apartment, so he decided to pick him up and put him in the bathroom to calm down. This is typical...a little bathroom time and he generally settles down. Well he was very aggressive, sprayed a bit, and when my boyfriend put him in the bathroom and went to shut the door, he shut it too fast and didn't notice that Casper was trying to run out the door at the same time and his head was caught between the door frame and the wall and must have severed an artery. Blood everywhere and my boyfriend was panicked and tried to hold him together to stop the bleeding, but there was nothing he could do and he passed quickly. I am just so torn up about this not only for this beloved cat who did not deserve to go in such a horrific way, but also for my boyfriend who blames himself and is terrified about what happened. We all loved that cat so much and our hearts ache for his life cut short in such a tragic way. The circumstances are the worst to try to work through. Had he fallen and injured himself it would still be tragic, but this just absolutely grotesque way to die is just horrifying to me and I can't seem to get that out of my head. We were supposed to have many more years with our Casper. I just hope his precious little soul is safe, in one piece and at rest. I hope he knows he was loved!
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